so dh just started a new job today at $15 an hr, and was sayig how easy and less stressful it is then his last jobs. and then we got on the subject of food....he was all mad cause i dident get up and make him a gormet breakfast and lunch....and then he said he might have to get up at like 7 to leave for work and i told him im not wakeing up at 6:30 he cnan just take a hot pocket or somehting and ill make his lunch the night before and he said "if i have to work and give up not having to do anything you have to sacreifice stuff to. so if you dont make me breakfast every morning then ill just quit" i told him i give up stuff everyday, i cant go hang out with friends all the time i cant sleep as much as i want i can cant do alot of stuff now that we have kids so yea i do screfice alot. i love my kids but that dosent mean i enjoy not doing everything i did befroe i had kids. and wtf hes going to quit if i dont make him breakfast??!? omg he is so imature!!!
wow sounds kind of like Bryantle before I went back to work. Because he worked full time he should have every meal made for him, I had to do everything kid/cleaning related, and I better wait on him hand and foot. But I did it, because I got to stay home with the kids. I was grateful. Now that I'm working full time and he's only working 20-30 hours a week, he expects nothing to change! Seriously! What is wrong with you growing up just a little? He needs "me" time to play video games but I don't get me time ever?
That's ridiculous. My husband has been working hard at the same job for the last 10 years, since he was a teenager ( he was 17 when our first child was born), and he gets up and leaves for work early every morning and tries not to wake us up when he goes. We now have 4 kids and he knows that I am exhasuted too. Moms have a lot to do at home and expecting you to get up earlier and make him breakfast when you have a day of taking care of the kids and house ahead of you is not reasonable.
If he's working to provide for his family, that's his job, and that isn't something that should be dependant on whether you make him breakfast or not, he should want to take care of you guys regardless. An adult can find their own food before they go to work, it sounds like he is acting very immature. Sorry you are dealing with that, I hope things get better soon.
im prerty sure you could call CPS on me for that, he dosent change diapers never has, he dosent cook, and he only plays with them for 5 mins every now an then, and if my dd (19mo) gets into something he will yell at her "if you break anything im going to kill you" or "touch it angain and ill rip off your fingers"
Quoting Georgie0502:Oops hijacked your post. I'm sorry your DH is being that way. Some day he's off work you should leave him with the kids all day and see how he likes it.
BTW: my husband has to get up at 5:00am to get ready for work. And he also makes his own lunch at night! I have more than enough to do. And honestly, if he's being like that....oh I'd get up. And make him the most nasty gross food he could imagine. *shrugs* and if he had a problem with it? Then he can do it himself ;-)
My DH used to be like that, just not quiet as bad. One day I got really tired of it cause he said that it was easy just sitting home all day with the kids. So I got up one morning on his off day. Went to my moms for the entire day and stayed gone as long as he is at work. When I got home, he had a whole new attitude about how easy my day actually is. And now appreciates the things that I do. Maybe you could do that and change you DH too!!
WOW. Maybe not then!! I posted mine while you were posting this. Dont think I would have left kids with him if he did this!! Prolly do worse than good!!
Quoting luna08:
im prerty sure you could call CPS on me for that, he dosent change diapers never has, he dosent cook, and he only plays with them for 5 mins every now an then, and if my dd (19mo) gets into something he will yell at her "if you break anything im going to kill you" or "touch it angain and ill rip off your fingers"
Quoting Georgie0502:
Oops hijacked your post. I'm sorry your DH is being that way. Some day he's off work you should leave him with the kids all day and see how he likes it.
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- luna08
on Mar. 22, 2010 at 2:32 PM