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vent. birthday yesterday... I know I sound selfish

Posted by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 12:09 PM
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Yesterday was my birthday and my Dh and I went to Damons. Why Damons? Because he won a 50 gift certificate to there. Which was great but my point is, it was a free dinner.  He didn't get me anything else. He bought me a stupid pandora braclet for christmas because my best friend told him that'd be a good idea. Well I always made comments about how stupid they were but he got me one anyways because my friend was at the store and got it for him so he didn't even have to leave to go get it. NOW I wanted another braclet.. one that in order for it to look cute you wouldn't have to buy charms to put on it. Well it's now almost July and I only have THREE charms on my braclet.  And one of which was bought by my friend.He was supposed to buy me one when I had Emma (a little girl one) but he never did.

I didn't get anything for valentines day, I didn't get anything for mothers day, and now I didn't get anything for my birthday (I wouldn't have gotten anything for christmas if it wasnt for my friend who was at the store and called him and asked him if he wanted him to buy it). I'm really starting to feel insignificant. When I was growing up my dad bought me something for my birthday, for christmas, for valentines day, and sometimes just when he wanted to. ( I had 4 brothers and was the only girl, so I was slightly "spoiled") And now I'm married to the cheapest man ever who can't even buy me a freaking pandora charm for my birthday. I'm ready to sell it because it looks stupid and I really don't even like it. But my point of this post isn't because of the braclet.. I'm so tired of feeling insignificant.

I became a stay at home mom and since I quit my job we don't have a whole lot of extra money. When I was working I was able to buy what I wanted, go out to lunch with friends when I wanted, and whatever else. Well now that I am doing whats best for our children, I have nothing extra. WHICH IS FINE. That's the sacrifice I chose to make to stay home with them. But I would have thought I would have at least got a birthday present. Would it really have been that difficult to stop somewhere after he got off work to get me a gift?! I know I have to sound really selfish, I swear I'm not. I just feel unappreciated and I'm tired of not feeling special. He doesn't do anything to make me feel special.

He is a GREAT husband and a WONDERFUL father, but I can't help but sit here and cry because there is no romance, and he doesn't know how to do thoughtful things for me.

And I'm starving right now. We had nothing to make for breakfast except muffins, so I started to make muffins but for some reason our cupcake pan is all rusted  and one is missing. And that just grossed me out so I threw it away. So I hinted to him that would just just go to the cafe and get breakfast. He said no we're not doing that. So now I'm just waiting until 2  until we have a cook out at my grannys house. (literally we have no other breakfast food or food that are just quick to make)

(and no, I'm not pregnant so it's not my hormones lol)

Our 2nd wedding anniversary is on July 5... and I know I'm going to be just as sad because it wasn't anything special to him last year.


Okay bash away, I know it's coming. :( but I HAD to get this off my chest... I have no one else to talk to about it.

***And yes, I have talked to him about it before, and no, it didn't do any good***

by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 12:09 PM
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by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 12:13 PM

I'm sorry mama. :( DH was like this for a few years. He just sucks at buying things. He has absolutely no idea where to start AT ALL. We've come to the conclusion where I'll just tell him a few things I want a frw weeks before whatever the event is, and he'll pick one to surprise me with which one it is. Now he ALWAYS gets me something LOL.

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by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 12:17 PM

The thing is.. when we were dating he was GREAT about gifts.. he really put alot of thought into to get me something he knew I would love.  I guess this is just what happpens after you get married LOL

by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 12:23 PM

wow even if you are tight on cash a nice thoughtful hallmark ard is what 2 or 3 bucks?? thats better than nothing right?? im in the same boat as you hun!!my birthday is in 2 days so we will see how things turn out on my end...

by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 1:54 PM

 My dh is the same way. I hate it!! He didn't even take the time to tell the girls it was mother's day!  The only thing I wanted for mother's day and my birthday was to just relax, (my bday was april 21) but I didn't get to. He got to relax and play his game all day though. I feel your pain!

by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 2:08 PM

My dh is the same way too!!! I love that he is a tightwad when it comes to money, but a small gift would be nice.

((hugs)) I'm sorry momma. Maybe you should return the bracelet and buy something you really want.

by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 2:15 PM

 my dh is like that, but not as bad. we always do soemthing for eachother on special days or at least try. we either go to dinner, or at least order a pizza, sometimes we'll go out if my parents watch DD. he used to be a lot worse.. hope things get better!

by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 2:20 PM

I know the feeling! =\

by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 2:24 PM
my dh is the way! My sister usually takes him shopping and she picks the stuff out for my xmas gift. But it's ok we are saving for a house so I'm fine with no gifts.
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by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 2:30 PM

my husband tries to get me gifts he just never listens to what I would like. I enjoy doing puzzles so guess what I got last Christmas 5 puzzles........

by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 2:33 PM

everyone needs to vent!!!

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