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How to juggle a baby and a toddler: How do you do it?

Posted by on May. 21, 2011 at 6:22 PM
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How to juggle a baby and a toddler

Find out some top tips for coping with looking after both a toddler and a new baby.
Having a new baby when you already have a toddler can be a daunting experience. You may wonder how you'll cope with two little ones vying for your attention, and how to divide your attention equally so that they are both getting the love and care they need. Every mum is different, but most find that they settle into their own way of juggling a baby and toddler after trying out various methods and seeing what works for them. To help you get started, here are our top tips for dealing with these challenging years of juggling both a baby and a toddler.

Prepare your toddler

It's a good idea to talk to your toddler before your baby is born, to prepare him or her for the new arrival. Even if you think he or she isn't old enough to understand, talk through what will soon happen to your family and what the new baby will be like. When baby is born, you may find that your toddler becomes an invaluable helper - they may be keen to help out with feeding and nappy-changing, even just by fetching you things you need.

Keep toddlers occupied

There are bound to be times when you must give your undivided attention to your baby, such as when breastfeeding. During these times it can be really helpful to have an emergency supply of toys, crayons, books, and games to keep your toddler occupied. This way you can give your baby the attention he or she needs without making your toddler feel neglected.

Enlist help

As a mum it can be tempting to take on all the responsibility of caring for your toddler and baby yourself, but it's important to enlist the help of others around you so that you have some time to yourself too. It's a good idea to ask your partner, Mum, or friend to help out regularly - you don't have to do it all on your own.

Keep them both occupied

Instead of trying to find separate things to keep your little ones occupied, try keeping your kids occupied by finding activities they can do together under your supervision. If your baby is still very young, just holding him or her in your arms while your toddler is nearby playing can work wonders.

Often Mums find that baby is fascinated by toddler and vice versa, so your baby may be happy just to sit and watch your toddler play with his or her toys or read a book. You could also try watching a film together with baby in your lap and toddler sitting with you.

Go for walks together

Going for a walk with your baby and toddler can be a great thing to do when either toddler or baby is restless and you could do with some fresh air. Pop baby in a sling or carrier, and he or she will usually be happy just being close to you. Meanwhile your toddler can burn off some energy walking with you, or can be pushed in a buggy.

It's important to remember that these days won't last forever; soon both your toddler and baby will outgrow these stages and you'll have 2 growing children to juggle instead (which of course can come with new challenges!). Experiment with different ways of keeping both toddler and baby happy, and you should find things that work for all 3 of you.
by on May. 21, 2011 at 6:22 PM
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by on May. 21, 2011 at 6:28 PM

I had 2 toddlers and a newborn and never had any help other than my husband.  We somehow muddled through but I never went with walks with them.  That was inviting disaster.  The one time I tried my almost 2yo son bolted for the street and I had to leave the 3yo and the baby sitting in the middle of the sidewalk to chase after him.  He got all the way to the end of the block before I caught him.  We went right home and I never attempted to go for a walk alone until the youngest was 2 1/2.

Activities for all of them...that just makes me laugh.  There was NOTHING I could do with all 3 at the same time.  It was completely impossible because the toddlers needed 100% help with everything we did and the baby got into everything.  There were zero arts and crafts going on in my house until they were preschool age.  Mostly we watched TV.  It was all I had the energy for.

by on May. 24, 2011 at 6:20 AM

 I have a 2yr DD & a 1 mth DS & i dont get no help my husband works offshore 14/14 & when he is home he still doesnt help..My mom takes my DD maybe once r twice a wk to give me a little break it does help a little bc everyone says when the baby sleeps u sleep well they dont tell u wt to do when u have a toddler that is all over the place & a newborn..I just do it i mean i might get 4-6hrs of sleep a day if that & when the baby  is sleeping i clean house,do clothes,r cook.i barely have time for myself but i make do..

by on May. 24, 2011 at 6:24 AM
I have a three yr old boy and a 12 day old girl and I don't have any help but I manage.
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by Bella on May. 24, 2011 at 9:55 AM

 I had two toddlers and a newborn a year ago. I just did it, lol. I kept the kids busy and made time for each : )

by on May. 24, 2011 at 10:02 AM

i think this was definitely by someone with no kids lol! my oldest is 8 1/2,my second daughter is almost 5,my 3rd is 3 and my little guy is 5months. the suggestions sound great,until you attempt them! lol. my 2 youngest daughters keep themselves busy all day long with each other,and i always try to play with them even if it is only for 10mins! i get them involved in what i do as well. like working out or cleaning! they want to help and they think it is fun!!:) it is definitely hard when you haven't had any sleep but it has to be done!

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