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joint birthday----how to not be rude?

Posted by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 7:40 PM
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my kids bday is only 3 weeks apart. my daughter is turning 6 and my son is turning 3. My daughter started K, so she will have lots of little school mates to invite for a birthday party, but my son doesnt really have anyone yet. He doesnt care, but he likes to be included in the fun with his big sister.

i want to make it clear to everyone that i do NOT expect people who have never met my son to bring gifts for him too. Last year when i handed out birthday invites for a joint party people thought that the kids were twins and they needed to buy for both and i dont want people to think that. I thought about saying, "a gift for both children is not expected" in the invites, however, i dont want it to seem like we expect a gift AT ALL, because we certainly dont! our kids are happy just to have people over, not to get gifts.

for the life of me i cant figure out how to phrase anything without it seeming weird or like i am expecting something from people!

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matofour
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 7:58 PM

I have 4 kids, who all have birthdays within 5 weeks.  We almost always do joint partys.

When I send out invites, I only write the kids name (my kid), who their friend is being invited to see. 

So, Kid A gets to invite 5 kids (all of those invites have only HER name on them), kid B gets to invite 5 kids, (her invites have only HER name on it).  At this point all their friends know they have close birthdays, and they get it. I don't want people to buy presents for all my kids, thats not why we have partys. 

It works well for us.

abra
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 8:27 PM

I love this idea!

Quoting matofour:

I have 4 kids, who all have birthdays within 5 weeks.  We almost always do joint partys.

When I send out invites, I only write the kids name (my kid), who their friend is being invited to see. 

So, Kid A gets to invite 5 kids (all of those invites have only HER name on them), kid B gets to invite 5 kids, (her invites have only HER name on it).  At this point all their friends know they have close birthdays, and they get it. I don't want people to buy presents for all my kids, thats not why we have partys. 

It works well for us.


PEEK05
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 8:49 PM


Quoting Katreyden:

 Maybe just don't say anything about it? That way people can decide if they want to buy gifts for both children or not.



lovin.my.boys
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 8:52 PM

That seems like a good idea.

Quoting matofour:

I have 4 kids, who all have birthdays within 5 weeks.  We almost always do joint partys.

When I send out invites, I only write the kids name (my kid), who their friend is being invited to see. 

So, Kid A gets to invite 5 kids (all of those invites have only HER name on them), kid B gets to invite 5 kids, (her invites have only HER name on it).  At this point all their friends know they have close birthdays, and they get it. I don't want people to buy presents for all my kids, thats not why we have partys. 

It works well for us.


la_bella_vita
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 8:56 PM

 Great idea

Quoting matofour:

I have 4 kids, who all have birthdays within 5 weeks.  We almost always do joint partys.

When I send out invites, I only write the kids name (my kid), who their friend is being invited to see. 

So, Kid A gets to invite 5 kids (all of those invites have only HER name on them), kid B gets to invite 5 kids, (her invites have only HER name on it).  At this point all their friends know they have close birthdays, and they get it. I don't want people to buy presents for all my kids, thats not why we have partys. 

It works well for us.

 

scurnes
by Bronze Member on Aug. 17, 2011 at 9:47 PM
My sister and I have b-days march 20 and 21 though we are 6 years apart. We did a lot if joint parties at skating rinks and skiing. We gave out invitations to our friends with just our individual name of it
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