When do you think is the right time to have another baby?
I'm watching Father Of The Bride 2 and it got me thinking; when is the right TIME to have another baby?
Everyone talks about the right age gaps for children and that's great. Age gaps are important. But does anyone think about age, or marital status, or how the previous baby would handle it?
Having a baby, especailly your first, takes a huge toll on your marriage. I know it did for mine. It's just the newness, the anxiety, the worry, the money for goodness sakes. All those things that seemed to be back-of-the-mind considerations, something that you knew would happen but you would work through, and you DO of course.
Looking back though, its been 14mos since we had our DD and our marriage is just now starting to get back into shape. I dont want to be one of those couples that has kids one right after the other and then gets divorced because they forgot about their marriage. I'm also enjoying our daughter now, just her, my biggest fear is that she'll feel ignored or forgotten with another baby around.
Sheesh! Does anyone else have these kinds of worries when contemplating having another baby? Do you worry about your marriage or relationship?
When do YOU think is the right time to have another baby?
It's definetly something I would consider before having another. My husbands and my relationship has definetly changed since our baby was born, and is finally starting to be back to normal (15 months later). If we have another I want them to be somewhat close in age but I do want some time for our relationship to be back to normal for a while first. Also I think a second baby wouldn't have quite as much of an impact as with the first baby because it wouldn't be such a new situation. I don't know...it's definetly something to think about.
Also don't forget to work on you relationship ith hubby. We have dates night every Friday. It's our ti. We also hang out when th kids are in bed. We have a schedule bed time. Everyone is in bed by 8:30. Our schedule works well and my marriage is solid. You have to communicate with hubby and it's all about team work and having a workable system.
I always wanted mine close in age.. THANK GOODNESS I WAITED haha!!! God knew what he was doing!! ;)... My DD will be 5 when the new baby is here.. she got to have 5 years of one on one attention and will be starting kindergarten.. :)... But for everyone it's different.. You also need to be in a good place in your relationship with your spouse, bf.. and also i think you need to be financially stable.. I think it is very wrong to have more children if you are on welfare.. just my opinion..
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- flowerfunleah
on Feb. 13, 2012 at 5:18 PM