Trouble going back to work

Aww, I'm sorry. I went back to work at 2 weeks with my older 2...it was hard, but you get through it. Weekends help! Any possibility of going part time?
My only advice is to enjoy every minute that your can (including when baby is up 10x's a night!)

I work nights so I still have her all day with me and she is 21 months now.  I usually take 2 months maternity leave and by then I have cabin fever but I am a work horse though.  Discuss being a SAHM with SO.  Going part time or switching your shift to say 4 days and 10 hours so you have an extra day off.  Good luck!

Thanks! It's so funny you mentioned enjoying him being up at night. Even though I'm exhausted, I always hope he'll wake up in the middle of the night just so I can be with him. :) He usually doesn't though. He's a great sleeper.

Also, I'm the bread winner, so me working part time would mean we'd have to sell our house. :( I'm seriously considering it, but I don't want to make any rash, emotional decisions that I'll regret later.

Do you remember when it started to get easier to be away so long? I keep having nightmares that I'll miss out on the mother-child bond & my little guy will prefer his Daddy over Mommy. :(

Thanks for the support!!!

I think it got easier after a couple of months, but there were always hard days here & there.
I breastfeed my kiddos, so there was never any worry about them preferring Daddy, lol, they were just tolerating him til I got home ;-)
Seriously though, I think almost every working mom is afraid that the baby is going to prefer the caregiver, but the baby always still loves mom. For me, I did 100% of the childcare when I wasn't working, I missed out on enough while at work was my reasoning. Not every mom feels this way, but I did.
If your hubby stays home with the baby, can you make the baby's bedtime later? Then you'll get more time on the evening and he'll sleep more in the morning while your gone.

Quoting WorkingMom1112:

Thanks! It's so funny you mentioned enjoying him being up at night. Even though I'm exhausted, I always hope he'll wake up in the middle of the night just so I can be with him. :) He usually doesn't though. He's a great sleeper.



Also, I'm the bread winner, so me working part time would mean we'd have to sell our house. :( I'm seriously considering it, but I don't want to make any rash, emotional decisions that I'll regret later.



Do you remember when it started to get easier to be away so long? I keep having nightmares that I'll miss out on the mother-child bond & my little guy will prefer his Daddy over Mommy. :(



Thanks for the support!!!

I was going to mention part time, or moving closer to work. Neither I see you can do, so ((Hugs))

Thanks everyone!!!

I went back to work when ds was only 6 weeks.  It was horrible!! I was gone 11 hours a day during the week.  The only thing that helped was on breaks I would call home and listen to him coo and get updates from DH. It was incredibly hard.  Make the most out of the time you have.  If you can take pictures of LO with you to work or even take videos.

Who watches the baby during the day? If its family, maybe they can send you videos of baby? It's what helped me after going back to work PT.

Thanks!  It's just nice to hear that other Moms have been through it too!  I'm doing my best to make the most of my time with the litle guy.  :)

Is it possible for you to change your schedule at work so that you can go in earlier, and therefore get off at an earlier time?  I started doing that the second day I was back at work (went from 9-5 to 8-4).  Hubby drops our son off at daycare in the morning, and I get him at night.  Love that I am there by 5 (live in NYC, so the commute from work to daycare is about an hour), and I get that extra hour with him at night.  And I totally know how you feel! *HUGS*