We have had a hard year. I had my twins at 27 weeks and they stayed in NICU for 12 and 13 weeks. When they came home it was a big change for us and I went thru some postpartum depression. I have finally pulled myself out of it and I am doing so much better. Im still getting up to feed them every 3 hours. My son is a very fussy baby at night but during the day he is really good. I havent been able to go back to work and have been house bound since they came home in November. My husband went back to work in January and he is making me get depressed again. He works 12 to 14 hours a day and when he comes home he get angry and fusses because our little boy fusses a lot starting around 7:00. My little girl fusses a little but its hard for me to try to keep them both quiet for my husband. My husband acts like he doesnt even want to come home because of the whining and he gets mad because they wake him up in the middle of the night and he has to get up at 3:30 to go to work. I cant help it. Its hard to keep 2 hungry babies from crying. My husband has ear plugs in with the door closed but he is a very light sleeper. I go back to sleep at 8:00am after my older son goes to school so I can catch up on my rest. I put my phone on vibrate so it wont wake the babies.
This morning my son got sick at school and he tried to call me but i didnt wake up from the vibration. So he called my mom and she went to get him. I would of had to get her to go get him anyways because I couldnt have gone. Well my husband calls me and the phone wakes me up and he did nothing but scream and cuss me out because I didnt have my phone turned up. We got to argueing and he said you dont know what its like to work 12 hours a day and then come home to screaming babies. Im at the point I just want to move in with my mom because I cant take it anymore. Im stressed enough being house bound for this long and the doctor told me not to take them out until April or May. Also he is making me feel bad about not working when I cant right now. I have never been without a job. Just needed to vent.
Quoting TrentonGirl:
Im sorry your having a hard time. Men dont know how hard it is to take care of babies 24/7. Ask him if he would rather stay home with screaming babies all day and let you go to work. Im sure he wouldnt want to. Does he not understand you cant always keep a baby from crying? My husband doesnt understand how hard it is to be a sahm but he never complained about the crying. I would say talk to him about it but it never helped to talk to my husband about it. And when i said well ill go to work and u can stay home he was all for it. I would have done it to but he makes twice as much as i would make. GL i hope things get better for you.
Oh yea I told him the same thing for him to stay at home and let me work and he says I would if you could make what I make. Yea right I wouldnt give him 3 days doing it and he would be begging to go back to work. He makes double what I make too.
Plus he should understand that you aren't getting any sleep either. He may work 12 hours a day but you have to work 24.
Good luck!
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on Feb. 15, 2012 at 11:51 AM