Help :( __When i nurse baby, my toddler acts up

Do you have a sling or carrier?  Wear the little one while he's nursing so you can make the big one go to time out.  Also, anything that's thrown gets put on top of the fridge and left there for the day.

She is trying to get attention. She doesn't see it as you feeding baby. She sees it as baby getting all of your attention. Ds does the same here sometimes when I nurse baby Ds. I explain to him that mommy needs to feed him and that when I am done we will do something special together. Gl mama

My ds does the same thing!!!!! Dd is still too small for my carrier so I try to give ds little jobs while I nurse...can you get mommy a diaper for sissy? Can you put this in the trash can? Can you find a toy and mommy will play as soon as she is done.
So far it's working but dd is only 6 days old.
Good luck to us both

She is jealous. Try to include her! She.can be mommies lil helper! You can also fit in some time during the day when its just you and her.to do something special without the baby like read a book.
Or you could have her.do something or hold something special during feedings....only during feedings like a special doll or bear or something.

I always made it story time when breast feeding. They got to choose there books. I would breast feed and the older one would cuddle up beside us and we would read a book.

I agree with raeann. It is important to give her some positive attention while your feeding. Sing songs, tell stories, cuddle together and talk. Explain what you're doing... it will take several tries but she will understand. How old is she?

 If you start reading, singing, or stoytelling every time you breastfeed then you are setting yourself up for doing that every time you breastfeed for the next 2 years. A 2 year old shouldn't be the helper, that sets them up for all kinds of problems including hurting the baby. 

The toddler needs to know you have enough love and attention for both and that you will take care of both. Switch up what you do when you are nursing. You can read, all lay together in the bed, set something up for the toddler to play with before you nurse, nursing in a sling, ect. Make sure your house is toddler proof so no one gets hurt. You may have to lower standards about some things like jumping on the couch if it keeps the toddler happy and allows you to nurse.  

Hi, she's two (just turned two last week. DS is 8 weeks old).
I do read to DDN but not EVERY time ie)in the morning when we wake up...

This is so miserable..

Quoting annaica:

I agree with raeann. It is important to give her some positive attention while your feeding. Sing songs, tell stories, cuddle together and talk. Explain what you're doing... it will take several tries but she will understand. How old is she?

*typo*-should say DD, not DDN

My daughter is also 2 and i could just imagine her with a new sibling, it would be difficult...

I imagine she would test me and get aggressive as well as possibly regress. Just try to have them get involved in as much ways as you can in every aspect of baby's care. Talk about feelings, are you feeling sad right.now? When she starts acting up, and then shift the mood to entertainment because at 2, they definitely like to entertain... sing songs, make faces, etc. Oh and see if you can set up an hour every week.with just your 2 year old. Have dad or grandma watch the little one and run out and get ice cream or go to the park just you two. That helped me with my son & there's 7 years between my kids LOL

Quoting Samantha431:

Hi, she's two (just turned two last week. DS is 8 weeks old).

I do read to DDN but not EVERY time ie)in the morning when we wake up...



This is so miserable..

Quoting annaica:

I agree with raeann. It is important to give her some positive attention while your feeding. Sing songs, tell stories, cuddle together and talk. Explain what you're doing... it will take several tries but she will understand. How old is she?