Hitting & Throwing... HELP!

Instead of smacking their hands, we flick the back of our kids hand and along with a firm, "no". Flicking is a much less like hitting but still provides the negative reaction you want them to associate with the word no.

We are going thru the same thing with our 17 month old. I like to believe it is the age he is at and wants to see how far he can push the limits. We were also giving him a light tap on his hand but he started to hit back so that stopped ASAP! I am know holding his hands down at his side and firmly telling him No, we do not hit or throw. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I am hoping he will grow out of it soon.

When my son starts throwing things (it's usually food) I grab his hands tell him no we don't throw food on the floor, put him down and show him his food and have him pick it up and put it in the trash. With hitting if he starts to hit I firmly say no tell him it's not nice and hold his hands as I say it..

When my daughter was about 14/15 months old, she did the same thing. I took her hands and rubbed them down my face gently and told her to use "gentle touches." I would repeat the hand action down her face and tell her that mommy was using gentle touches. If she was really hurting us, if I was holding her, I would put her down and tell her that mommy does not play with little girls that hurt others. Or if I was just playing with her, I'd walk away and tell her that I don't play with little girls who hit. It took a couple weeks of consistency and she stopped. It got to the point to where if I was holding her, she would just rub the side of my face and say "nice" LOL. Even at 3 she does it sometimes.

i like abra response, and of course taking that toy away for the day. keep reminding him why the toy was taken. if he does it again put him in the corner. i spanked at that age bc spanking worked with my son, he's five and now we do time out with nose in the corner and that works better than spanking for him. it's all about what works for you. remember though to not discipline angry, your son wins when that happens. i also recommend "parenting with love" where you give them choices but they have to choose the right choice like saying "you can choose to stop doing that or you choose to go to the corner" or "you can choose to pick up your toys or choose to sit in time out"

This is identical to what I did.  I know it's frustrating to get hit in the face and it's hard to hide your frustration, but it's important to remember that it's just a very normal toddler phase.  Not that you shouldn't address it, but you don't need to go overboard, especially since the child isn't trying to deliberately hurt or disobey you, but rather just acting out a normal, new thing they can do.  They like the reaction and can't really discern all that well between a positive reaction and a negative one.  And it in no way means that your child is overly aggressive or violent.  Totally normal!

Quoting PEEK05:

When my daughter was about 14/15 months old, she did the same thing. I took her hands and rubbed them down my face gently and told her to use "gentle touches." I would repeat the hand action down her face and tell her that mommy was using gentle touches. If she was really hurting us, if I was holding her, I would put her down and tell her that mommy does not play with little girls that hurt others. Or if I was just playing with her, I'd walk away and tell her that I don't play with little girls who hit. It took a couple weeks of consistency and she stopped. It got to the point to where if I was holding her, she would just rub the side of my face and say "nice" LOL. Even at 3 she does it sometimes.

Yes I do this too. My son associates the word "soft" and "nice" with petting animals.

Quoting PEEK05:

When my daughter was about 14/15 months old, she did the same thing. I took her hands and rubbed them down my face gently and told her to use "gentle touches." I would repeat the hand action down her face and tell her that mommy was using gentle touches. If she was really hurting us, if I was holding her, I would put her down and tell her that mommy does not play with little girls that hurt others. Or if I was just playing with her, I'd walk away and tell her that I don't play with little girls who hit. It took a couple weeks of consistency and she stopped. It got to the point to where if I was holding her, she would just rub the side of my face and say "nice" LOL. Even at 3 she does it sometimes.

Im having the same trouble with my 19 month old. He hits, throws stuff, and bangs his head in the wall. When he hits I put him in time out which is pretty much just his room and I put the baby gate up so he cant get out. When he throws stuff I hide it from him and dont give it back.  None of these things are really working but when he hits I hate spanking him cause I feel thats kinda counterproductive by me doing something to him that I dont want him doing to me.

I thought my son was the only rough kid! Glad to know its a phase and it will pass. Until then I guess we will try some things you ladies have mentioned! Thank you!