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"I'm nobody's favorite"

Posted by on May. 9, 2012 at 2:45 PM
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This is what my 3 1/2 year old son said to us today. The other day he told me that nobody in school likes him except for Meghan. I asked the teacher about how he plays with other kids and she said he used to be too aggressive, but he is starting to play much better with them. So I wasn't too worried. Then he said that this morning. I died a little inside. I tell him every day that he is my favorite boy (he has a sister), that he is awesome, that he is the best, so handsome, so nice etc.

I have no idea why he said this today, but I set up a meeting for DH and I with his teachers and the director of his school. He's been having a very hard time sleeping lately too. My brother in law (his uncle) died recently and that effected him more than we realized. But I don't think that would make him feel unloved or that he isn't our favorite.

I expected to have troubles like this with my daughter in a few years, but never my son, and not at this age. I've spent most of the day crying. I had social issues in high school and I would never wish those feelings of loneliness on anybody. I'm seeing my own therapist tonight to ask her for some tips on him as well. But this is breaking my heart.

Any suggestions on what to say to him? (He is above average inteligence and very emotional and quite deep for his age).

Posted by on May. 9, 2012 at 2:45 PM
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jaynemarie086
by on May. 9, 2012 at 2:50 PM

bump

jaynemarie086
by on May. 9, 2012 at 2:54 PM

bump

angela.bouchard
by Angela on May. 9, 2012 at 5:42 PM

bump

AriMommy
by on May. 9, 2012 at 6:51 PM

Maybe he's just not feeling like he's getting enough attention from you right now and he knows saying this will get a reaction out of you.  Try to spend some one on one time with him doing something he really enjoys and see if his mood improves.  Good luck.  :)  :)

jaynemarie086
by on May. 9, 2012 at 6:52 PM
To bump my post, DS came home today in a pretty good mood. All the kids were yelling and waving by. I think he is just overly sensitive to the attention his sister gets now. We are still going to have a meeting at his school though.
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jaynemarie086
by on May. 9, 2012 at 6:59 PM
Thanks, we have been trying to do that. I took a day off last week and we had a special day just the two of us. And he and his dad spent a whole weekend together. I just think he's tired and confused. But it kills me to think of him hurting.


Quoting AriMommy:

Maybe he's just not feeling like he's getting enough attention from you right now and he knows saying this will get a reaction out of you.  Try to spend some one on one time with him doing something he really enjoys and see if his mood improves.  Good luck.  :)  :)


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Marranna777
by on May. 10, 2012 at 12:19 AM

BUMP!

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