So my husband and I sat down last night and realized just how much our life would change, and as selfish as it may seem, it's not a money issue that we couldn't take care of the baby, we were just overwhelmed, but after looking at each other like we were crazy, we decided that every child deserves to live.
I just wouldn't be able to look at my kids the same again, it would ruin our marriage, and I would be a basket case, of coarse with now maybe 4 kids....i will still be a basket case, but a basket case that didn't regret taking a life of her very own child. It's a hard 9 months and the labor sucks, but it's just a moment in time. This too will pass and they will be grown before I know it, so I might as well look up and say thank you, and it must speak highly of my character that God would bestow this blessing upon me, knowing that God never gives you more than you can handle. .
Thank you for all the support of the ladies out there with their opinions, thoughts, and stories, and never once being nasty or rude. It really helped my family think about it and see how selfish we were acting. Thank you ladies. I'm very early on, so lets see if the baby decides to hold on. By my math I am 7 weeks.
Hello ladies,
I haven't been on here in a while since I had my 2nd baby 7 months ago. Lately we have been moving, I have had a bunch of activities go on at work and just forgot when I last had my period. So the other day I take one of my diet pills and immediately get sick (which is very strange for me) so I start to think and I buy a home pregnancy test just to put my mind at ease, but low and behold it came out positive. Here are the cons, I just had a baby 7 months ago, I have a 17 year old that doesn't plan on driving or moving out anytime soon, I could potentially lose my job, not while i'm pregnant but daycare will be expensive, I really thought I was done having kids. My husband and his family are very religious and believe that a baby is a truly a gift from god and that it should be treated as such. Yesterday my husband and I were even talking about doing the dreaded "A" word. I just feel like i want to be there for my family and my boys that i already have instead of add more babies and not be able to give them what they need. Thoughts? opinions? stories about similar situations? anything would help us out right now, we just aren't sure what to do.
You won't be done until someone is "fixed" or you go through menopause. Maybe after this one you should look into getting your tubes tied (they can do it right after you deliver too) or your hubby get snipped (the healing and recovery is faster on men then women). It will just put your minds at ease when you are really wanting to be done.
{{HUGS}}
Quoting alauck:
thank you ladies, i'm sure we will find a way to support the baby, i'm sure we can provide for it. but i just thought i was done, ya know?? everyone is being so nice, i'm with the other lady, i thought by now the abortion police would be houding on me. i just really needed some encouragement and some words of power and all of you have come through. so thank you very much!
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My SIL had a 7 & 11 year old and thought she was done, and then BAM- twins.
I'm sure it was stressful and confusing at first for them, but both seem so happy with those surprises in their lives :) (the friend is now 24, and my twin neices are 3).
I think you are stressed and incredibly overwhelmed. However children ARE a blessing, no matter if the little one is planned or not.
Please do not consider abortion. This is your children's sibling, your beautiful son or daughter who DOES have a purpose, despite the crummy timing in your life.
Hard times and trials do not last forever....but ending a life is forever. I'm probably going to get hate mail or ugly quotes for my reply to your post, but that's ok. I have close friends who have had abortions and they STILL struggle with their decision years later. Lots of regret. I would hate for you or anyone to feel the way my friends have felt over their decision.
(((((((HUGS))))))))
Hang in there mama. You are stronger than you know.
Oh hugs darling :-(. I worry the most about how you would feel after having an abortion. I've known women that aborted for various reason and under different circumstances. From my observations, it's more difficult to cope with when you have existing children and a stable partner to face everyday vs. getting pregnant young and broke with a one-night stand. I know that a lot of people are throwing adoption out there, but in most family structures there is intense pressure from extended family for you to keep the baby.
I can't say that I've been in your shoes, however I did conceive DD2 when DD1 was only 9mo and I can tell you that two in diapers isn't as bad as everyone makes it out to be. I am now pregnant with my first ever unplanned pregnancy, also having a 2yo and 3yo at home. I planned to have my tubes tied at the hospital (I'll be 32).
This is a very difficult decision to make and I hope that things get better for you.
It's a very personal decision but unmanly if you don't want another baby don't have it. Your husbands family doesn't need to know about it. I had one when I was 15, the man that got me pregnant was 25. The idea of carrying his child made me feel like killing myself ( very diffrent situation but thats my story)
Hi. I'm the abortion police :) lol. I'm not going to call you names or any such thing, but if you don't want the child then I believe that adoption is the best (and only option) so I would seriously consider doing so if you're sure that you don't. Every child is a blessing, a gift. Why not give that gift to someone who hasn't been so blessed? And have your tubes tied, or have your husband "fixed" if you're sure you want no more children. Good luck.
Oh, but I should add that you before doing anything rash - seriously consider keeping that child. You already have one little one, it's not like all of your children are grown and gone :)
My baby fell out of the crib today:(
- alauck
on May. 23, 2012 at 1:55 PM