the joy of mother-in-laws!!!

sorry, my sister is having problems with her MIL also but i LOVE my MIL

Quoting shasta912:

I feel ur pain, but mine is the opposite. She gets sick before all of the kids birthdays and has asked that we just send pictures to her and she wont have to visit. The MIL from hell!!

Quoting loreleismama:

My MIL is great but I have heard a lot of "advice" from other older people that just makes me squirm! They don't seem to realize that things were different when they were raising kids.

Quoting heninger09:

Wow thats awful :( . She will be missing out on them! They grow so fast, its amazing watching them grow

Quoting shasta912:

I feel ur pain, but mine is the opposite. She gets sick before all of the kids birthdays and has asked that we just send pictures to her and she wont have to visit. The MIL from hell!!

Quoting shasta912:

True but she was horrible to her own children so it was expected. I hope ur MIL lets up soon. Unwanted advice from strangers is bad enough but u cant escape MIL's.

Quoting heninger09:

Wow thats awful :( . She will be missing out on them! They grow so fast, its amazing watching them grow

Quoting shasta912:

I feel ur pain, but mine is the opposite. She gets sick before all of the kids birthdays and has asked that we just send pictures to her and she wont have to visit. The MIL from hell!!

Overall, I have a great MIL, but we've had our differences about feeding.  DS had reflux and milk protein allergy, so I was very cautious about introducing new things to him.  They gave him something one day (I can't remember what it was now), but it made his reflux act up and she felt horrible.  That is, until his first birthday party when she was trying to be cute in front of my mom.  She's a huge Coke drinker.  She came in before the party and Ian went for her Coke bottle.  She handed it to him and he chugged a couple of swallows before I heard FIL say, you're gonna get in trouble.  I came down the hall and it was on!  I yelled at dh for standing there and allowing it to happen.  Then I went back to our room fuming mad.  I could hear her apologizing to dh.  She finally came to our room and apologized and said she'd never do it again and to please not make her leave before the party.  I told her that her punishment would be answering the following question when he's 10.  "Grandma, why am I fat?'  I told her, you can say, "I'm sorry, but I instilled bad eating habits in you when you were a baby." 

Probably a bit extreme, but they'd been trying to feed him since he was 3 1/2 months old.  We ended up having an enjoyable birthday party once we got past that. 

I love my MIL. I've never had issues with her trying to give/ do things with my son that I don't approve of. But, we do have issues now when ever we are all together and I am trying to discipline my son (not spaking but taking him away from things) or giving him something and she will try to over rule my parenting which I am NOT okay with. My son needs to learn to listen to me, not his grand mother that he's around 2-3 times a month.