So anyways! My DD is ten months old and having pretty bad "stranger anxiety" except it's the worst w my mil & FIL. We give them tips that my parents do, Like sitting w her and having her come to you not just grabbing her. She literally breaks down. Face red, tears down her cheeks, and catching her breath bc she's so upset. I still never really grab her from them, they usually hand her back after a minute. We at their Labor Day party we were all sitting around and my mil said can you try to come see Grandma? And so I said probably not but handed her over. At this point, I decided to get up to pee and as I'm getting up (I was on the floor) my baby started having meltdown bc of Grandma holding her. Well my FIL sees me standing up and yells, yes, yells at me (in front of numerous members of my family and friends) and says "will you let it be! This is why she cries bc she's never going to get used to us if you keep taking her away". I said something like first of all I'm peeing and second of all what you guys are doing is not working obviously. I'm so pissed.
So should I email his mom? Last time I had problems w my FIL (which is all the time) I messaged my mil and she fixed it and said nobody listens to anything he says yadda yadda. My dh is uncomfortable talking to people about stuff Like that. So should I email the mom or am I over reacting? I just really wanna be like did I deserve to get yelled at ESP when it comes to my daughter? I'm her parent not them. Sorry so long! But really wanted some opinions. Thsnks in Advance!