personally i like that my children are close in age. EXCEPT for my last one. My older girls are 14 months apart, they are now 8 & 7 yrs old. It was hard to have 2 in diapers at the same time but as they became potty trained it was great, they both kept each other busy and they could play together. My son is 5 which is still pretty close to the girls. They all play great together and can do everything the other siblings do. Now my last child is 2 months old and there will be a big gap in my opinion and her older siblings will probablly be less willing to play with their baby sister the way the older kids all play together. This is just my opinion. It really depends on your patience level. Could you see yourself having kids so close that they are both in diapers? Or would you want to wait until you 3 month old is potty trained, by then you might be dealing with a newborn baby in diapers and a child with terrible 2's or terrible3's. Good luck to you hun, you will do what is best for you. What does you hubby or SO want?
It all depends on the situation for me. I wanted them far enough apart so that I didn't have 2 in diapers and so that I could devote 1 on1 time with each child but not so far as that they couldn't play together. I had to be financially ready. There are so many things to think about. Doctors and hospital bills for you, doctor and hospital bills for baby, college fund, supplying basic needs for the baby that turns into a toddler into a child into a TEENAGER (help) that turns into an adult. The need so much!
Good luck with your decision
Spend some time with a friend's newborn when you feel ready to add another child. When my daughter was 2 months, my friend's son was almost exactly 10 months old. He was starting to crawl and get into everything. I was left alone with him and my daughter for about 10 minutes, and it was soo hard to feed her, while he was going for the flat screen. I can't imagine having to do that all day! I'm convinced I never want to have another child, but I'm sure it'll change eventually. I always wanted them a year or two apart and I don't think that'll happen.
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