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Round 2! DD fighting sleep ... Help?

Posted by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 3:46 AM
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***UPDATE: She's asleep now. I just let her play with toys and then held her for an hour until she went to sleep. Though, she has a wet diaper and I have to change her, hoping she won't wake back up. I could still use some advice on getting her to sleep.***


I went through this with my first DD. when she got around 8-9 months, she began to fight sleep. We tried everything to get her to sleep, and I mean EVERYTHING we could think of or were advised to try, but DH and I would eventually have to put her in her crib and let her scream it out.



Now my second DD is almost 10 months and she is now fighting sleep. She'll fall asleep, but when we lay her down, she wakes up screaming her head off. Again, we try everything we know of, but nothing works.



She's clearly tired, eyes are puffy and red and she's constantly yawning or rubbing her eyes, but she won't go to sleep.



Here's a list of things we try:



Warm bottle

Warm lavender bath

Laying down with her

Rocking her

Singing a lulliby

Checking her diaper

Checking to see if her gums are hurting

We turn off lights and all electronics so she's not interested in anything

Reading her a Dr. Suess book





Anyone have any other suggestions that we can try? I'd really appreciate it. Thanks!
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mandapanda82
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 5:29 AM
Idk Hun sounds like you tried everything-- bump!
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DaniVan
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 5:33 AM

BUMP!

gizmo538
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 4:04 PM

 Is this behavior normal though?

Quoting mandapanda82:

Idk Hun sounds like you tried everything-- bump!

 

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mandapanda82
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 4:17 PM
Oh yes! They go through all sorts of things- separation anxiety, teething, growth spurts- so normal! Don't worry! Here's another bump maybe someone else will have suggestions! Good luck


Quoting gizmo538:

 Is this behavior normal though?


Quoting mandapanda82:

Idk Hun sounds like you tried everything-- bump!

 


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mandapanda82
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 4:17 PM
Bump!!
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abra
by Abra on Jan. 16, 2013 at 5:18 PM
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This is the method that worked well for us. I hope you all get some sleep soon!!

You've probably heard of Compassionate CIO (CCIO) and it can work well for a lot of people. CCIO is gentle, but is not the quickest solution you can find. The method suggests lots of reassurance and checking on your child so that your child learns to sleep by himself but with the minimum of distress possible. One of the nice things about CCIO is you are able to choose a progression pace to fit your needs. There is no perfect age to start and no rules about how long to allow controlled crying. You are the mom. You know what is best. 

The general idea of CCIO is that you go through your bedtime routine to prepare them for sleep. You are able to pick exactly what your routine is, but commonly a bath, reading or singing and meal are involved. After you have completed your bedtime routine, you lay your baby down in a safe crib or pack n play and shut the door behind you as you leave. You leave them to cry for a short time  (intervals are custom to child's needs) and then you can go in their room if/when they become anything more then mad at the situation. You know your baby's cry. If they  become frightened or something besides just angry, you go in, pick up your baby and comfort them until they are peaceful and ready to go to sleep, again. At which time, you lay your baby back down again and repeat the cycle.  It is, essentially, teaching your baby to go to sleep and eventually stay asleep without you. The benefits of starting sleep training younger is simply that they aren't as set in their habits, which helps minimize distress for everyone, but what age you start training is 100% up to you.

The downside of CCIO is that any crying can be distressing for your child and for you. There is no way around it. Allowing your child to cry is difficult - they want you and you're not going to them straight away and you're not picking them up as you would normally. But it is important to note that CCIO is attending to all your baby's needs (comfort, food, cleanliness) but is not indulging all of their wants (to be held or to nurse while they sleep, which ultimately is very difficult on mommy). CCIO is unique in that it achieves a healthy balance between indulgent and severe sleep training methods. 

After a number of nights the crying gradually lessens and finally your child will then go to sleep by themselves. Once you reach this stage everyone of course feels much better! Everyone gets more sleep and everyone has more energy. When you are training younger babies, you will still need to get up with them at night to feed them, but after they are fed, burped and clean again, you will start CCIO cycle again. 

The initial stages are tough for everyone. You need to agree with yourself and partner that you are going to let your child cry for an agreed amount of time and not give in until that pre-determined time. If you cannot do this, then CCIO is not the method for you. Inconsistency will only be upsetting for your child and will not help the sleep problem. 

Before you start any sleep training program always check with your medical professional that your child is well and healthy and that his/her sleep issues are not a sign of any underlying problem. 

http://www.cafemom.com/group/113812/forums/read/15376333/An_Introduction_to_Compassionate_CIO_Sleep_Training

bris_mom
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 7:48 PM

sounds like a sleep regression, not much you can do. Does she fall asleep independently because that may be your culprit

This is how I got my baby to sleep through the night violet-sleepbabysleep.blogspot

gizmo538
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 9:20 PM

 No, she fights sleep. Even during the day when it's time for a nap, she fights it. When she wakes up, she normally wakes up screaming, but there are days she'll wake up cooing and playing in her crib.

Quoting bris_mom:

sounds like a sleep regression, not much you can do. Does she fall asleep independently because that may be your culprit

 

We are the music makers, and we are the dreamers of dreams.
la_bella_vita
by Bella on Jan. 16, 2013 at 10:54 PM

 Sounds like you've tried everything

rugayah
by Member on Jan. 17, 2013 at 8:09 AM
My 4month old is like that. She is so over tired but don't wanna sleep so we would also check if all is fine with her and if it is just hold her while she is crying,screaming and just walk and sing to her until she can no longer stay awake
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