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Am I the only mom who thinks it's unbelievably rude when a stranger touches my baby?

Posted by on Jan. 24, 2013 at 10:15 PM
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This morning at Trader Joes I snapped at a woman in the checkout line. She was standing behind me baby-talking to my 8 month old (which I hate... we don't baby-talk to her ever, but I always keep my mouth shut about it). She reached over and stroked my kid's cheek and I was like wtf lady, but I said "Uhm no, don't touch my baby. I didn't say it was ok, I don't know you, she doesn't know you. That's so rude." She went to stand in another line and I got a weird look from the lady in front of me.

Seriously, EW! I don't know if your hands are clean, if you're sick, if you're some emotional/spiritual succubus. Bottom line, I think it's plain rude to touch a stranger's baby. I would never do it, and I'm unapologetic about being ultra defensive when strange people try to touch my baby.

Am I alone on this? Is it overprotective and weird? It REALLY bothers me.

by on Jan. 24, 2013 at 10:15 PM
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momto1ryen
by Bronze Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 10:18 PM
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 I'm not sure if rude is the word I would use. I don't neccesarily like it, but some people you can just tell especially elderly that saying hi to my baby and getting that smile makes their day. I prefer for them not to touch my child especially during flu season, but I know people mean no harm by it. I usually don't say anything unless it gets to be to much.

polkaspots
by Silver Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 10:19 PM
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It's not only rude it's completely disrespectful to you and the baby. I don't let strangers touch me, why should I let them touch somebody who can't defend themselves? I find it even worse than strangers who touch pregnant bellies.
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ACrowsNest
by on Jan. 24, 2013 at 10:22 PM

Let me clarify by saying I don't mind people saying hi to her and talking to her, or playing peek-a-boo or whatever. She loves people, but she's also very sensitive and doesn't like people in her space. 

And I don't think that being elderly gives you a pass on getting too close to my child.

pinkiebabii
by Bronze Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 10:25 PM
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I let random old ladies hold him and kiss him lol.
I don't really see the harm in it and he absolutely loves the attention.
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bellaamore
by on Jan. 24, 2013 at 10:27 PM
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I let people hold mY daughter, hug her, etc.

As long as they arent obviously disgusting or sick, i see no issue.

kirstina
by on Jan. 24, 2013 at 10:29 PM
I don't have a problem with it most the time.
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blondieinva80
by on Jan. 24, 2013 at 10:30 PM
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I'm with you OP...mines a preemie,so I keep him away from everyone as much as possible,but there are times that I have no choice but to take him to store with me....I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut if someone did that!
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OliviaW.
by on Jan. 24, 2013 at 10:36 PM

I answered depends. While I would never touch someone else's baby (cause personally I hate it myself) I have bit my tongue while other people have touched my kids...mostly it has been my son and normally it was only his hair cause he had a full head of darn curly hair with blonde highlights when he was born. 

babygomez
by April on Jan. 24, 2013 at 10:36 PM
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I think it's a little weird, but I would never say anything rude when a nice lady gently strokes his arm or hair. I just smile and tell my son "say 'hi' ".

Babies are cute! I can't blame them. Lol

momto1ryen
by Bronze Member on Jan. 24, 2013 at 10:36 PM

 Dd was a preemie too so when I had to go out I would wear her in the Moby. She was so small I can't even tell you how many times someone would double glance at me and go "Oh there's a baby in there!" Then I wouldn't let anybody touch her, heck we barely let people at the house.

Quoting blondieinva80:

I'm with you OP...mines a preemie,so I keep him away from everyone as much as possible,but there are times that I have no choice but to take him to store with me....I wouldn't be able to keep my mouth shut if someone did that!

 

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