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It’s O.K. to Let Babies Cry It Out at Bedtime

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When infants can’t sleep, it usually means Mom and Dad aren’t getting much shut-eye either. That, in turn, can double the risk of depressive symptoms in mothers, cause strife in marriages and result in costly trips to the pediatrician.

For wiped-out parents wondering whether or not to sleep-train their restless babies, a new study in Pediatrics has some good news: strategies that let babies cry it out for limited periods while teaching them to sleep on their own can help families sleep better in the short term without causing long-term psychological damage in kids or weakening the bond between babies and parents.

The study looked at two sleep-training methods known as controlled comforting and camping out, both of which let babies cry it out for short amounts of time. Controlled comforting requires the parent to respond to their child’s cries at increasingly longer intervals to try to encourage the baby to settle down on her own. In camping out, the parent sits in a chair next to the child as he learns to fall asleep; slowly, over time, parents move the chair farther and farther away, until they are out of the room and the infant falls asleep alone.

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While neither strategy is as extreme as letting babies cry all night by themselves, they have been criticized over concerns that they may cause long-term emotional or psychological harm in babies, interfere with their ability to manage stress or cripple their relationship with their parents.

The new study by Australian researchers involved 326 children who had parent-reported sleep problems at 7 months. Half of the babies were put in the sleep-training group, in which parents learned helpful bedtime routines as well as the controlled-comforting or camping-out technique (parents could choose which strategy they wanted to use), and half were put in a control group that did not use sleep-training. The researchers followed up with the participants and their parents five years later. (By the study’s end, about 30% of families had dropped out.)

By age 6, the researchers found no significant differences between the kids in either group in terms of emotional health, behavior or sleep problems. In fact, slightly more children in the control group had emotional or behavioral problems than in the sleep-trained group.

Researchers also found no differences in mothers’ levels of depression or anxiety, or in the strength of parent-child bonds between families who had used sleep-training and those who hadn’t.

Meanwhile, earlier data from the study show that sleep-training does work: babies learn to go to sleep easier at bedtime and stay asleep longer at night. Based on the findings, the authors conclude that sleep-training is safe and effective, and call for an increase in parent education about these methods as well as more training for health specialists to recommend the procedures.



Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2012/09/10/its-o-k-to-let-babies-cry-it-out-at-bedtime/#ixzz2K3FWXMsz


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by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 1:43 PM
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Baby_Avas_Momma
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:00 PM
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Lmao I crack up everytime this "study" gets posted. A bunch of parents made their babies CIO and then told "researchers" that their kids are "just fine" 5 yrs later. I'll stick with the studies that scientifically PROVE CIO to be harmful.
When those parents are old, senile, and fully dependent on their kids, hopefully their kids care more than they did and don't leave them all confused and upset in a dark room to figure their own shit out. Don't wanna spoil them! ;)
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AleaKat
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:02 PM
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That's great that you had such an easy transition but I wouldn't change the CIO method for myself or my kids. They are very secure, independent children. It's not lie I let them cry for hours and hours.
My first cried 30 min at the most and wore himself out to sleep . The next night it was 15 min then 10 then 5 all the way down to a whimper then nothing . My second slept through the night from the get go.


Quoting SewingMamaLele:

It's actually not.  I've done it twice already and have two really good independent sleepers with very little fuss.   I think if you push when the child isn't ready it would be hard... but it's just all about knowing your child.  

Quoting AleaKat:

I toss and turn too much in my sleep. I'd be too paranoid baby would get squished or something and then when the time comes to break them of that habit it's hell.



Quoting SewingMamaLele:

Which is exactly why we co-sleep.   Baby isn't ignored, we all get to sleep.   Win-win-win.

Quoting AleaKat:

Same here. If I'm up all night tending to crying baby ill be an even worse mother when I'm falling on my face from exhaustion.





Quoting expectantmom81:

We did CIO with both joys and would do it again :-)



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mandapanda82
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:02 PM
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Co sleeping doesmt work for everyone though my dd is an extremely light sleeper she will not sleep w another person in bed w her
Anyways I thought co sleeping is a cause of SIDS- I don't go saying your a "bad" mom cuz you choose to co sleep
Quoting SewingMamaLele:

Which is exactly why we co-sleep.   Baby isn't ignored, we all get to sleep.   Win-win-win.

Quoting AleaKat:

Same here. If I'm up all night tending to crying baby ill be an even worse mother when I'm falling on my face from exhaustion.






Quoting expectantmom81:

We did CIO with both joys and would do it again :-)


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aimesnyc
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:10 PM
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A majority of parents that do some sort of CIO are by no means "cruel or heartless."  In fact, we love our babies very much and want them to be able to get a good night's sleep, which is actually very healthy (http://children.webmd.com/features/good-sound-sleep-for-children).  We also would like to get the amount of sleep necessary to be happy and healthy parents.  We do not "ignore" our children.  Do you think it's easy to let them cry for a short amount of time and not rush in?  However, we know that the end result (should the sleep training be effective for our child, because we also recognize that all children are different and it may just not work for our child) will only help our child.  My sister sleep trained my niece and attempted to do so for my nephew.  My niece did great with it, and it did not work for my nephew.  She did not force it, but instead lived with the fact that he had sleep issues until they resolved on their own.  My niece, as well as my own son that was sleep-trained, is a very bright and happy child. 

To make a blanket statement about those who choose to sleep train their children is, to me, a bit rude.  There are things that other parents do to their children that I do not agree with, but I would never hint toward another parent being cruel or heartless.  That is, unless there are obvious signs of abusive behavior. 

Quoting audreesmama:

I would never let my babies CIO. To me it's cruel and heartless. Why have kids if you're just going to ignore them?



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mandapanda82
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:12 PM
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Exactly- we want then to get a good night sleep- so that makes us cruel?! They're gonna have to learn eventually! I cannot believe these moms say we don't care for our babies! I'd never say that about a moms love for her lo no matter what the parenting style is

Quoting aimesnyc:

A majority of parents that do some sort of CIO are by no means "cruel or heartless."  In fact, we love our babies very much and want them to be able to get a good night's sleep, which is actually very healthy (http://children.webmd.com/features/good-sound-sleep-for-children).  We also would like to get the amount of sleep necessary to be happy and healthy parents.  We do not "ignore" our children.  Do you think it's easy to let them cry for a short amount of time and not rush in?  However, we know that the end result (should the sleep training be effective for our child, because we also recognize that all children are different and it may just not work for our child) will only help our child.  My sister sleep trained my niece and attempted to do so for my nephew.  My niece did great with it, and it did not work for my nephew.  She did not force it, but instead lived with the fact that he had sleep issues until they resolved on their own.  My niece, as well as my own son that was sleep-trained, is a very bright and happy child. 

To make a blanket statement about those who choose to sleep train their children is, to me, a bit rude.  There are things that other parents do to their children that I do not agree with, but I would never hint toward another parent being cruel or heartless.  That is, unless there are obvious signs of abusive behavior. 


Quoting audreesmama:

I would never let my babies CIO. To me it's cruel and heartless. Why have kids if you're just going to ignore them?




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mandapanda82
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:14 PM
They're just jealous cuz were getting sleep! Lol

Quoting AleaKat:

Same here. If I'm up all night tending to crying baby ill be an even worse mother when I'm falling on my face from exhaustion.



Quoting expectantmom81:

We did CIO with both joys and would do it again :-)
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kirstina
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:17 PM
Cry it out works for some but not all babies. I never let my babies cry more than 10-15 minutes and never before 9-10 months. My dad doesn't cry anymore. If she is fitted and I lay her down she falls asleep. If she is very tired and I am holding her she get upset and cries until I put her in her bed. It works great.
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audreesmama
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:18 PM
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Both of my children get very good sleep. DD slept through the night (8pm-8am) at 8 months and DS sleeps 6 hours at a stretch at night, and he's 5 months old. I never did sleep training or CIO like what's mentioned. I get a good amount of sleep, and have never left my children to cry for even a short amount of time. It's possible to help teach a baby to sleep without ignoring him or her. I know it is, because I have done it with my two and all the foster babies I've had. 

Suggesting that letting your baby cry for a short amount of time is not ignoring them is ridiculous. You know they're crying, you know they want you, yet you choose to not be with them. That's ignoring them. You don't have to ignore your tiny baby to teach them to sleep. You're teaching them to give up. 

I don't really care how you feel about my opinion or that it is rude, because it won't change my view of parents who do CIO. To me, CIO and sleep training are a bit rude. You're bringing a child into this world, who had no choice in the matter, then you're going to ignore them until they cry themselves to sleep out of fear, desperation and panic because you don't want your sleep pattern disrupted. That's rude. To me, that's cruel and heartless. You may feel differently, and you are entitled to your opinion, as am I. 

Quoting aimesnyc:

A majority of parents that do some sort of CIO are by no means "cruel or heartless."  In fact, we love our babies very much and want them to be able to get a good night's sleep, which is actually very healthy (http://children.webmd.com/features/good-sound-sleep-for-children).  We also would like to get the amount of sleep necessary to be happy and healthy parents.  We do not "ignore" our children.  Do you think it's easy to let them cry for a short amount of time and not rush in?  However, we know that the end result (should the sleep training be effective for our child, because we also recognize that all children are different and it may just not work for our child) will only help our child.  My sister sleep trained my niece and attempted to do so for my nephew.  My niece did great with it, and it did not work for my nephew.  She did not force it, but instead lived with the fact that he had sleep issues until they resolved on their own.  My niece, as well as my own son that was sleep-trained, is a very bright and happy child. 

To make a blanket statement about those who choose to sleep train their children is, to me, a bit rude.  There are things that other parents do to their children that I do not agree with, but I would never hint toward another parent being cruel or heartless.  That is, unless there are obvious signs of abusive behavior. 

Quoting audreesmama:

I would never let my babies CIO. To me it's cruel and heartless. Why have kids if you're just going to ignore them?





                                       

audreesmama
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:20 PM
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Here's my reply to the person who quoted me:

"Both of my children get very good sleep. DD slept through the night (8pm-8am) at 8 months and DS sleeps 6 hours at a stretch at night, and he's 5 months old. I never did sleep training or CIO like what's mentioned. I get a good amount of sleep, and have never left my children to cry for even a short amount of time. It's possible to help teach a baby to sleep without ignoring him or her. I know it is, because I have done it with my two and all the foster babies I've had. 

Suggesting that letting your baby cry for a short amount of time is not ignoring them is ridiculous. You know they're crying, you know they want you, yet you choose to not be with them. That's ignoring them. You don't have to ignore your tiny baby to teach them to sleep. You're teaching them to give up. 

I don't really care how you feel about my opinion or that it is rude, because it won't change my view of parents who do CIO. To me, CIO and sleep training are a bit rude. You're bringing a child into this world, who had no choice in the matter, then you're going to ignore them until they cry themselves to sleep out of fear, desperation and panic because you don't want your sleep pattern disrupted. That's rude. To me, that's cruel and heartless. You may feel differently, and you are entitled to your opinion, as am I. "

Quoting mandapanda82:

Exactly- we want then to get a good night sleep- so that makes us cruel?! They're gonna have to learn eventually! I cannot believe these moms say we don't care for our babies! I'd never say that about a moms love for her lo no matter what the parenting style is

Quoting aimesnyc:

A majority of parents that do some sort of CIO are by no means "cruel or heartless."  In fact, we love our babies very much and want them to be able to get a good night's sleep, which is actually very healthy (http://children.webmd.com/features/good-sound-sleep-for-children).  We also would like to get the amount of sleep necessary to be happy and healthy parents.  We do not "ignore" our children.  Do you think it's easy to let them cry for a short amount of time and not rush in?  However, we know that the end result (should the sleep training be effective for our child, because we also recognize that all children are different and it may just not work for our child) will only help our child.  My sister sleep trained my niece and attempted to do so for my nephew.  My niece did great with it, and it did not work for my nephew.  She did not force it, but instead lived with the fact that he had sleep issues until they resolved on their own.  My niece, as well as my own son that was sleep-trained, is a very bright and happy child. 

To make a blanket statement about those who choose to sleep train their children is, to me, a bit rude.  There are things that other parents do to their children that I do not agree with, but I would never hint toward another parent being cruel or heartless.  That is, unless there are obvious signs of abusive behavior. 


Quoting audreesmama:

I would never let my babies CIO. To me it's cruel and heartless. Why have kids if you're just going to ignore them?






                                       

mandapanda82
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:23 PM
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I will not tolerate anyone else accusing me of being heartless and cruel- and I refuse to read your reply because I know you will have a snarky response about how im "damaging" my child- so no I'm not even gonna read it

Quoting audreesmama:

Here's my reply to the person who quoted me:

"Both of my children get very good sleep. DD slept through the night (8pm-8am) at 8 months and DS sleeps 6 hours at a stretch at night, and he's 5 months old. I never did sleep training or CIO like what's mentioned. I get a good amount of sleep, and have never left my children to cry for even a short amount of time. It's possible to help teach a baby to sleep without ignoring him or her. I know it is, because I have done it with my two and all the foster babies I've had. 

Suggesting that letting your baby cry for a short amount of time is not ignoring them is ridiculous. You know they're crying, you know they want you, yet you choose to not be with them. That's ignoring them. You don't have to ignore your tiny baby to teach them to sleep. You're teaching them to give up. 

I don't really care how you feel about my opinion or that it is rude, because it won't change my view of parents who do CIO. To me, CIO and sleep training are a bit rude. You're bringing a child into this world, who had no choice in the matter, then you're going to ignore them until they cry themselves to sleep out of fear, desperation and panic because you don't want your sleep pattern disrupted. That's rude. To me, that's cruel and heartless. You may feel differently, and you are entitled to your opinion, as am I. "


Quoting mandapanda82:

Exactly- we want then to get a good night sleep- so that makes us cruel?! They're gonna have to learn eventually! I cannot believe these moms say we don't care for our babies! I'd never say that about a moms love for her lo no matter what the parenting style is



Quoting aimesnyc:

A majority of parents that do some sort of CIO are by no means "cruel or heartless."  In fact, we love our babies very much and want them to be able to get a good night's sleep, which is actually very healthy (http://children.webmd.com/features/good-sound-sleep-for-children).  We also would like to get the amount of sleep necessary to be happy and healthy parents.  We do not "ignore" our children.  Do you think it's easy to let them cry for a short amount of time and not rush in?  However, we know that the end result (should the sleep training be effective for our child, because we also recognize that all children are different and it may just not work for our child) will only help our child.  My sister sleep trained my niece and attempted to do so for my nephew.  My niece did great with it, and it did not work for my nephew.  She did not force it, but instead lived with the fact that he had sleep issues until they resolved on their own.  My niece, as well as my own son that was sleep-trained, is a very bright and happy child. 

To make a blanket statement about those who choose to sleep train their children is, to me, a bit rude.  There are things that other parents do to their children that I do not agree with, but I would never hint toward another parent being cruel or heartless.  That is, unless there are obvious signs of abusive behavior. 



Quoting audreesmama:

I would never let my babies CIO. To me it's cruel and heartless. Why have kids if you're just going to ignore them?








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