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It’s O.K. to Let Babies Cry It Out at Bedtime

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When infants can’t sleep, it usually means Mom and Dad aren’t getting much shut-eye either. That, in turn, can double the risk of depressive symptoms in mothers, cause strife in marriages and result in costly trips to the pediatrician.

For wiped-out parents wondering whether or not to sleep-train their restless babies, a new study in Pediatrics has some good news: strategies that let babies cry it out for limited periods while teaching them to sleep on their own can help families sleep better in the short term without causing long-term psychological damage in kids or weakening the bond between babies and parents.

The study looked at two sleep-training methods known as controlled comforting and camping out, both of which let babies cry it out for short amounts of time. Controlled comforting requires the parent to respond to their child’s cries at increasingly longer intervals to try to encourage the baby to settle down on her own. In camping out, the parent sits in a chair next to the child as he learns to fall asleep; slowly, over time, parents move the chair farther and farther away, until they are out of the room and the infant falls asleep alone.

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While neither strategy is as extreme as letting babies cry all night by themselves, they have been criticized over concerns that they may cause long-term emotional or psychological harm in babies, interfere with their ability to manage stress or cripple their relationship with their parents.

The new study by Australian researchers involved 326 children who had parent-reported sleep problems at 7 months. Half of the babies were put in the sleep-training group, in which parents learned helpful bedtime routines as well as the controlled-comforting or camping-out technique (parents could choose which strategy they wanted to use), and half were put in a control group that did not use sleep-training. The researchers followed up with the participants and their parents five years later. (By the study’s end, about 30% of families had dropped out.)

By age 6, the researchers found no significant differences between the kids in either group in terms of emotional health, behavior or sleep problems. In fact, slightly more children in the control group had emotional or behavioral problems than in the sleep-trained group.

Researchers also found no differences in mothers’ levels of depression or anxiety, or in the strength of parent-child bonds between families who had used sleep-training and those who hadn’t.

Meanwhile, earlier data from the study show that sleep-training does work: babies learn to go to sleep easier at bedtime and stay asleep longer at night. Based on the findings, the authors conclude that sleep-training is safe and effective, and call for an increase in parent education about these methods as well as more training for health specialists to recommend the procedures.



Read more: http://healthland.time.com/2012/09/10/its-o-k-to-let-babies-cry-it-out-at-bedtime/#ixzz2K3FWXMsz


.....Ophelia Grace...............Mira Lorne...............Jude Bennett.........Liam Daniel Baines.


by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 1:43 PM
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mandapanda82
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:40 PM
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Thanks! That makes more sense

Quoting abra:

The risk of cosleeping is suffocation, not SIDS. 

Quoting mandapanda82:

And all the moms who choose to co sleep what about SIDS?! Isn't that a cause of SIDS? But I don't feel the need to attack moms who do this! It works for them and I understand


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abra
by Abra on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:41 PM

Nobody is asking you to. Itis just a TIME article. No reason to get defensive. I personally think there isno one perfect sleep solution for every family and refuse to make it a moral issue because it is not. I pick what is best for my kids amd frankly, I dont care what other people decide because it is non of my business. 

Quoting audreesmama:

Yes, I did. My impression is not outdated, it just differs from what is outlined here. Regardless, I have never and will never let my children cry for me and ignore them. If they need or want me, it's my job to be there.


Quoting abra:

Your impression of what cio means is outdated. Did you even read the article? 

Quoting audreesmama:

I would never let my babies CIO. To me it's cruel and heartless. Why have kids if you're just going to ignore them?





.....Ophelia Grace...............Mira Lorne...............Jude Bennett.........Liam Daniel Baines.


mandapanda82
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:41 PM
Suffocation I meant

Quoting themissheather:

No cosleeping had been shown to lower the incidence of SIDS.



Quoting mandapanda82:

And all the moms who choose to co sleep what about SIDS?! Isn't that a cause of SIDS? But I don't feel the need to attack moms who do this! It works for them and I understand
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April620
by Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:42 PM
I agree.

Quoting audreesmama:

I would never let my babies CIO. To me it's cruel and heartless. Why have kids if you're just going to ignore them?
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jjchick75
by Bronze Member on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:42 PM
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No. SIDS means you don't know what caused the baby die, if they died in an adult bed there is a reason for the death, therefore it's not SIDS. It can be dangerous if not done properly but there are many other countries where co-sleeping is the norm and their infant death rate from SIDS and other deaths during sleep are very low. Baby was never meant to be put in a bed alone and left. They were always supposed to be tucked in near their mommy. 

Personally I would never use CIO. I don't think that teaches anything and they wear themselves out. I babysat at night for a baby boy fromt the time he was 6 months-12 months and she made me let him cry and he would cry for 2 hours every night for the entire 6 months. There is just no way I could do that with my own child. I couldn't do it with him and cried with him. We set up bedtime routines from birth and co-sleep. That is what works for us. There is no article that could convince me it's fine to let a baby cry.  To each their own. 


Quoting mandapanda82:

And all the moms who choose to co sleep what about SIDS?! Isn't that a cause of SIDS? But I don't feel the need to attack moms who do this! It works for them and I understand



mandapanda82
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:42 PM
http://life.familyeducation.com/SIDS/Co-sleeping/64358.html

Welli did find this


Quoting themissheather:

No cosleeping had been shown to lower the incidence of SIDS.



Quoting mandapanda82:

And all the moms who choose to co sleep what about SIDS?! Isn't that a cause of SIDS? But I don't feel the need to attack moms who do this! It works for them and I understand
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mandapanda82
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:43 PM
http://life.familyeducation.com/SIDS/Co-sleeping/64358.html

Quoting jjchick75:

No. SIDS means you don't know what caused the baby die, if they died in an adult bed there is a reason for the death, therefore it's not SIDS. It can be dangerous if not done properly but there are many other countries where co-sleeping is the norm and their infant death rate from SIDS and other deaths during sleep are very low. Baby was never meant to be put in a bed alone and left. They were always supposed to be tucked in near their mommy. 

Personally I would never use CIO. I don't think that teaches anything and they wear themselves out. I babysat at night for a baby boy fromt the time he was 6 months-12 months and she made me let him cry and he would cry for 2 hours every night for the entire 6 months. There is just no way I could do that with my own child. I couldn't do it with him and cried with him. We set up bedtime routines from birth and co-sleep. That is what works for us. There is no article that could convince me it's fine to let a baby cry.  To each their own. 



Quoting mandapanda82:

And all the moms who choose to co sleep what about SIDS?! Isn't that a cause of SIDS? But I don't feel the need to attack moms who do this! It works for them and I understand




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brebugmom91
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:45 PM
We CIO in our house. It works for us.
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abra
by Abra on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:46 PM
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Do you also churn your own butter because they have progressed scientifically in that area too? Electricity?


Incidentally, i dont think one method fits all. Different methods for different families. I do find it amusing when the guilty flee (or on this case get rude and lash out) when nobody is after them. It is just sn article, hon. Nobody is trying to tell you that you have to do it. 

Quoting Baby_Avas_Momma:

Lmao I crack up everytime this "study" gets posted. A bunch of parents made their babies CIO and then told "researchers" that their kids are "just fine" 5 yrs later. I'll stick with the studies that scientifically PROVE CIO to be harmful.
When those parents are old, senile, and fully dependent on their kids, hopefully their kids care more than they did and don't leave them all confused and upset in a dark room to figure their own shit out. Don't wanna spoil them! ;)



.....Ophelia Grace...............Mira Lorne...............Jude Bennett.........Liam Daniel Baines.


themissheather
by on Feb. 5, 2013 at 2:46 PM
I do not agree with CIO and I worry this study doesn't take into account outside variables. A lot can happen in five years, so I find it hard to be able to use sleep methods as the reasons behind children being fine or not. That said, if it works for you, then it works for you.
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