So my in laws came up for my son's 1st birthday. DS hadn't had a nap all day because he was excited to see his Grandma, Grandpa and Aunt, so he was tired. We go out to eat, and he was a little fussy. Not horribly so, but enough where I took him outside for a walk while everyone ate so he could calm down. I didn't get a single bite of my dinner.
My father-in-law then tells my mom how I should put ds in time out. He's a year old! He wouldn't understand the concept of time out. What point is time out if they can't appreciate that they are doing something wrong?? I handled the situation - I removed him from the restaurant so he didn't bother anyone. What else could I do?? So now I feel like crap because he doesn't think I handled it correctly and his kids 'would never do that'
Is he right? Wrong? What are your thoughts?
How were you suppose to put him in time out at a resturant? I would have done the same thing you did, just took my ds outside to calm down.
How is a 12 month old able to even begin to grasp the concept of time out? They're still very much a baby at that age. Not only that, but where do you put a baby in time out at a restaurant?
You did the right thing. When DD2 spazzes in public, I pick her up and remove her from the situation, usually outside so she can calm down, and perhaps nurse, and then we'll assess the situation from there.
I think you handled it perfectly. He isn't old enough to understand time out, not to mention he was tired and while I'm not blaming you, its not his fault he didn't get a nap. And as far as his kids never doing that, he probably just doesn't remember that. No kid is perfectly behaved all the time and in every situation, especially babies.
time out can work for a child that is one-year-old but its more of using repition, to get the child to associate doing something with a bad consquences.
Child tries to climb on table put in play pen. Child tries it again, put in play pen. Child doesn't like pplay pen and so won't get on the table at some point. children that young can learn.
However, your child needed a nap, so timeout wouldn't apply in this situation.
I think your FIL is crazy lol he does not sound like he knows anything about babys
Edit....... I did put dd on "timeout" at the age lol but it was for me to have a minute to calm down (she was a really really bad biter) but i agree at the age it wont work
Quoting lauratupper:
How were you suppose to put him in time out at a resturant? I would have done the same thing you did, just took my ds outside to calm down.
I agree
And time-outs don't work when they don't understand time outs.
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- Megan11587
on Mar. 4, 2013 at 11:40 AM