First it all started with the swaddle, she didnt want to but if she wasnt swaddle she would startled and eventually wake herself up, every 45 mins. We tried just swaddling her legs only but then she started to startled and then putting her hands on her face following by waking up .
When she outgrew the startled she was sleeping a little better, she started to sleep again like what she used to (8:00 to 2:00 am) but once she woke it would take almost two hours to put her back to sleep, this was accompanied by arching her back,grunting or simply eyes wide open, this behavior stuck with us for two weeks.
Then she started to not sleep well.. Period, bedtime was 8 she would wake up 9, then 11, then 1 and then it again it would take me an hour to two to put her back to sleep.
They told me about wonder week 19 so i thought it was a phase, but i honestly feel it has gotten worse.. Now she sleeps with us (thats not the problem) i ebf and so she goes to bed like that but, she starting to startle again.. Waking up and sometimes not even bf helps anymore, when i put her down she starts to grunt and push, once i pick her up ahe is fine BUT she wont go to sleep like that, i have tried putting her in the crib and just pat her shuush her, but she starts to squirm follow bu grunting etc. Even when she sleeps with me she wakes up and sometimes wont fall as sleep easy it can take me 45 mins as well .. And then she is up by 5:30.
Naps.. Last week ahe slept three hours she did thisfor 3 days, the only thing is that she slept on the car seat :/. Yesterday for some reason it wasnt the same she woke up 20 mins after that it was a mess .. Right now i finally got her to "nap" on her car seat BUT she moves so much and is opening her eyes like she is going to wake up anytime, she hasnt take any nap until now.. She woke up at 6 am.
I feel like she is nervous or too hyper ( new mom here) and im just overhelm with this, i feel i can't help her because nothing works, not even the car which a lot of people swear by it. Even when she finally falls as sleep ahe put her hands in face like rubbing her eyes..
She weights 19 pounds, i honestly dont think hunger is an issue, can someone give me some advice if this happen to your baby and to you? I need some enlightment and hope .
Thank you and sorry about grammar and how long it is.
*I asked the ped and he said thats when they usually fight sleep :/, i also have the wedge for the crib so her head is elavated, but i will talk to her again.