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I have a 2 month old babygirl. She is my first. I am a stay at home mom and take care of all of her feedings and diaper changes through out the day. Even though it gets super demanding and at times challenging I love every second of it even though I complain at times. But I really don't enjoy help. I don't want other people to feed her or change her or bathe her or even hold her sometimes.. I just feel like I am the only one that can do it right. Is this normal?? What can I do to try and refrain from this feeling so I can enjoy the help that I get at times.
by on Oct. 26, 2013 at 11:54 PM
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by Angela on Oct. 29, 2013 at 1:00 AM

This! I find those things more helpful too.

Quoting Baby_Avas_Momma:

She's still a newborn, it's 100% normal to want to do everything, it's instinct, you're bonding. :)
Let everyone else do other things if they want to help you. Tell them to help clean your house, bring some food, go grocery shopping, help with laundry.

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by on Oct. 30, 2013 at 3:43 PM
Thanks everyone!
by Nicki on Oct. 30, 2013 at 4:22 PM

This is me, too. The older she gets the easier it'll be to take a step back and let someone else do a bit of the work, lol.

by on Oct. 30, 2013 at 5:11 PM

normal--yes. necessary--no. its silly to think that you are the ONLY person who could possibly take care of a baby right. obviously you are the best, but other people know how to take care of babies too :)

as for tips, i dont know, bc ive always felt fine with anyone taking care of my kiddos. im a little on the under-protective side.

by on Oct. 30, 2013 at 5:57 PM

My third child is 3 months and my husband and I do everything. We don't even leave our children until they're about 18 months. I would think not wanting to do things for her would be abnormal. She will only be little for so long, soak up the cuddles!

by on Oct. 30, 2013 at 8:19 PM

Yes it is normal.  Been there, Done that, Got the T-shirt.   I wanted to leave the house when hubby would have a day off and leave LO with him.  So I did, and couldn't stand it.  I tried, I really did.  I couldn't trust him.  I was afraid he would let her roll off the couch/bed.  I was afraid he wouldn't feed her or burp her... something, ANYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!!!   The only one I really felt I could trust was my mom.   She would take her for a week and it would be ok, long as she came back soon!!!   But it took me till she was 5-6 months to let her go with mama even.  

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