So my husband is making me a little crazy lately. I just started back to my job after maternity leave yesterday. He went back to work a week after the babe was born. He is still so uncomfortable being alone with our son! He is 12 weeks old and it don't know if it's because he doesn't want to take care of him or he just doesn't know what to do with him?
Heres an example..when Luke was about 3 weeks old I was ready to venture out of the house but didn't want to take the babe out yet. So left my husband and baby at home and went to target. Got home and he laid poopy socks, pants on the kitchen counter, said they had a 'blow out' and didn't know what to do with it! Lol.
He had him for about 4 hours alone yesterday, and I asked what they did,- he said he fed him, burped him and held him. So he sat there and held the baby for 3 hours?! Why couldn't he have played with him, read him a story or give him a bath? He didn't start dinner or pick anything up in the house. And it's 8:00 at night, And he is sitting there holding our sleeping baby and says can you take him, I'm starving I need to eat something. Well why didn't you put the baby down and go feed your self? And in my head I just want to scream- I just left my baby for 12 hours, I'm exhausted, I'm sad that I'm back to work and now he is showing me he can't take care of himself and the baby, it just makes me nervous.
so anyway to get to the point, after that any time he knows it's just going to be him and the baby, he asks his parents to come over. I'm going to work on Friday and it will be the first day he has him for 12 hours and his parents are coming to help him. I don't know why it just bothers me, I just wish he would take this time to bond with him on and get to know what his needs are. I mean at least he knows he needs help but come on!
I don't know what I'm really asking but I just don't what to say or do, or is this normal for men to be this uncomfortable with their own baby?