Hi all! Im new to the group. I joined mainly because Im having a really rough time with my almost 10 month old and sleeping. Nathan is my youngest and I never had problems like this with my older son.
For the first 3 months of his life, he slept like a champ and I thought I was blessed because of it. Heck, his first night home, he slept through the night. Since 3 months of age, he has fought sleep, tooth and nail and Im at my wits end now that he's almost 10 months. He is a breastfed baby. He still wakes a lot at night to nurse. Average is 3 times a night. Out of those 3 times, I can hear his stomach growling twice....so I know he NEEDS to eat 2 times a night still. Like I said, he wakes 3 times on average.....more often he wakes 3-6 times a night and its hell. Its like he wakes up, crying, and needs to be soothed back to sleep. He shares a room with my oldest, and my oldest has learned to sleep through it now, but its making my husband and I zombies. Also, GOING to sleep is a fight 100 percent of the time. For a LONG time, we would rock him and jiggle him and shush him to sleep and I think that was a huge mistake. Now, we're just putting him down and rubbing his back and he screames. We're doing controlled CIO. We go back in every 5 minutes to let him know we're there, but he still needs to be patted on the back to actually fall asleep, or else he'll cry for an hour or more. We've been doing the controlled CIO for about 5 days now. It doesn't take long anymore, but its still a knock down drag out fight at first.
I can tell you that he has a routine, (I know its hugely important-kids like things to be consistent) He wakes around 6-7 for the day, nurses, eats breakfast around 8-9 and I put him down for a nap around 9:30. He'll sleep anywhere from 1-2 hours, but never more, often times less. Then he nurses. He has lunch by 12-1230. We play and I put him down for another nap by 2pm at the latest. The amount he sleeps here is the same as the AM nap. Then he nurses and has dinner by 530-6pm. He nurses 2 more times before bed, then we take a bath and then bed at 8 at the latest, but usually around 7:30. Then the nighttime festivities begin. Also, he eats a LOT of solid food when he's awake. He is a chow hound, which I love. :-) So I know it's not because he's not getting enough calories during the day. I dont know what to do. I know I shouldnt compare kids, but my oldest started sleeping through the night at 10 months and it was RIGHT when I felt like I couldnt take anymore nighttime feedings. (he was formula fed) What can I do??? Honestly, the fight when we first put him down isnt really a huge deal for us, but its the constant WAKING at night that is really making it hard for me to function. Co-sleeping and bedsharing are NOT an option for us, so please, dont suggest it. Any ideas? Anything that you can see that Im doing wrong? Help would be greatly appreciated. TIA! :-)