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Should Mom be able to ban Dad from the L&D room?

Posted by on Mar. 13, 2014 at 4:06 PM
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 Did you hear a NJ judge has ruled that a woman can keep the expectant father out of the deliver room invovling estranged, unmarried couple.

Is it really a privacy issue or does the expectant dad have a right to be there?

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Dragonmamas
by Ari on Mar. 13, 2014 at 8:00 PM

IMO it isn't fair to deprive that experience from him, seeing his child be born. Just because we carry and deliver them doesn't make them less theirs.

KylersMom8-16-7
by Gold Member on Mar. 13, 2014 at 8:10 PM
It's her choice who attends regardless of who they are to the child...
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IrishIz
by Silver Member on Mar. 13, 2014 at 9:12 PM
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Considering the delicate nature of the issue...yes, she can dictate who is in the room.  I'm really all for men's rights but not on this one.  He should have every right to visit with baby...but being in the delivery room isn't his right.

larissalarie
by Platinum Member on Mar. 13, 2014 at 9:35 PM
As much as it might suck for the father to miss the birth, yeah ultimately it's up to the patient who is in their hospital room (or who comes into your home if you birth that way)
Nothing about human reproduction has ever been fair between the sexes.
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la_bella_vita
by Bella on Mar. 14, 2014 at 5:15 PM
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 Of course, it's not something fathers should miss but let's face not all expectant dad's are good people or would plan to be excellent support. Birth of a baby is something where you should only be surrounded by people you feel comfortable with.

mommyhonu
by Mary on Mar. 14, 2014 at 5:18 PM
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 I agree. Mom doesn't need to be all stressed out when she's in labor.

Quoting la_Ibella_vita:

 Of course, it's not something fathers should miss but let's face not all expectant dad's are good people or would plan to be excellent support. Birth of a baby is something where you should only be surrounded by people you feel comfortable with.

 

cali_angel_girl
by Amy on Mar. 14, 2014 at 5:20 PM
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I agree.

Quoting la_bella_vita:

 Of course, it's not something fathers should miss but let's face not all expectant dad's are good people or would plan to be excellent support. Birth of a baby is something where you should only be surrounded by people you feel comfortable with.


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DACIA79
by Bronze Member on Mar. 14, 2014 at 5:25 PM
I disagree with this unless its a case of abuse emotional or violent .

I think he has the right especially if you expect him to provide for the child.
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by Mary on Mar. 14, 2014 at 5:27 PM

 Would it be acceptable for Dad to wait for baby to arrive in the waiting room and then escort baby to the nursery? It may not be the same thing as being there but at least he can respect mom's privacy.

Quoting DACIA79: I disagree with this unless its a case of abuse emotional or violent . I think he has the right especially if you expect him to provide for the child.

 

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