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considering a Birth Doula to help you??

Posted by on Nov. 9, 2009 at 2:41 AM
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Why use a doula?


A doula helps a woman through the labor~helping her to feel more comfort during the process.

Doulas "mother the mother." Women have complex needs during childbirth and the weeks that follow. In addition to medical care and the love and companionship provided by their partners, women need consistent, continuous reassurance, comfort, encouragement and respect. They need individualized care based on their circumstances and preferences.

Doulas are educated and experienced in childbirth and the postpartum period. We are prepared to provide physical (non-medical), emotional and informational support to women and their partners during labor and birth, as well as to families in the weeks following childbirth. We offer a loving touch, positioning and comfort measures that make childbearing women and families feel nurtured and cared for.

Numerous clinical studies have found that a doula’s presence at birth tends to result in shorter labors with fewer complications reduces negative feelings about one’s childbirth experience reduces the need for Pitocin (a labor-inducing drug), forceps or vacuum extraction and cesareans reduces the mother’s request for pain medication and/or epidurals. Research shows parents who receive support can:

  • Feel more secure and cared for
  • Are more successful in adapting to new family dynamics
  • Have greater success with breastfeeding
  • Have greater self-confidence
  • Have less postpartum depression
  • Have lower incidence of abuse.

 

 

All over the world there exists in every society a small group of women who feel themselves strongly attracted to giving care to other women during pregnancy and childbirth. Failure to make use of this group of highly motivated people is regrettable and a sin against the principle of subsidiary.

Dr. Kloosterman, Chief of OB/GYN, Univ. of Amsterdam, Holland





Doulas help the outcome to be much better! Check out www.DONA.org. I think a doula is especially helpful to the hospital birther. It's very overwhelming to be in labor in that setting! Also, it's nice to have a nurturing person at home with you before you leave for the hospital, to know that everything is going well, when to leave for the hospital, etc. What about the husband who wants to do it all? In my experience, I still haven't attended a birth where the dad has been able to cover all the needs of the mama. Plus he rarely knows what to do and how. It's a very touchy time and having a professional there by your side the ENTIRE time is SOOO comforting! Doctors, nurses, even most midwives do not stay with the mama in labor the entire time. And if questions come up along the way, it's great to have this advocate for you there. A lot of mamas complain about having felt "bullied" into certain interventions that they really never wanted. But in labor they couldn't voice this, and the dad was overwhelmed.



Currently, most health insurance doesn't 'technically' pay for doulas. Sometimes families have been reimbursed for doula care when they are persistently hounding the insurance company with calls and letters. This is often successful because the family illustrates that doulas can decrease the cost that insurance companies owe the hospital because of doula care. But doulas cannot bill insurance companies for their services.
Doulas generally charge about $400-$700 or more (depends on where you live, her experience, what's included...) If you must pay out of pocket, consider how valuable her service will be to you--it's worth it! You can ask for a contribution from your baby shower/family/friends to help pay the doula. The doula may accept payments or even Paypal. *Also, a doula-in-training will be free and they are anxious to help!



Why might I want a doula?
Will a doula interefere with my partner's role at the birth?
Will my doula force her ideal birth on me?
What comfort measures can a doula provide?
What if I'm planning on getting an epidural or having a scheduled cesarean birth?
How does a doula interact with hospital staff?
Does insurance cover the cost of having a doula?
Why should I consider paying for a professional doula service?
How should I go about hiring a doula?



Want to locate a doula??

You can scan through:

http://dona.org/

http://www.bellywomen.net/

http://www.cappa.net

Childbirth International

Mothering.com Forums - Tribal area

even craigslist!

Even ask local midwives/prenatal yoga teachers/birth class teachers... I always see business cards on coffee shop boards, too!




Questions to Ask a Doula
The following questions will help you decide if a particular doula is right for you.
 

For any doula:
What training have you had? (If a doula is certified, you might consider checking with the organization.)Do you have one or more backup doulas for times when you are not available?
May we meet her/them?
What is your fee, what does it include, and what are your refund policies?
 

When interviewing a birth doula:
Tell me/us about your philosophy about childbirth and supporting women and their partners through labor.
May we meet to discuss our birth plans and the role you will play in supporting me/us through childbirth?
May we call you with questions or concerns before and after the birth?
When do you try to join women in labor?
Do you come to our home or meet us at the place of birth?

Do you meet with me/us after the birth to review the labor and answer questions? 

When interviewing a postpartum doula:
Tell me about your experience as a postpartum doula.
What is your philosophy about parenting and supporting women and their families during postpartum?
May we meet to discuss our needs and the role you will play?
What different types of services do you offer?
When do your services begin postpartum?
What is your experience in breast-feeding support?
Have you had a criminal background check, a recent TB test?
Do you have current CPR certification?



You may want to interview more than one doula to find the right one for you.



  • Doulas mother the mother.       :-)
  • Every woman who wants a doula should have one!      :-)
  • If you don't know your options you don't have any.      ~Korte & Scaer
  • If a doula were a drug, it would be unethical not to use it.    -John H. Kennell, MD
  • Women's strongest feelings (in terms of their birthings), positive and negative, focus on the way they were treated by their caregivers.       ~Annie Kennedy & Penny Simkin
  • labor is not about dilation.  Your body knows how to give birth whether or not you have a pelvic exam during labor.  Birthing women need encouragement to trust their bodies, and to be the stars of their own labors.     ~The Doula Guide to Birth

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sissychristi
by on Nov. 9, 2009 at 2:55 AM

I am so lucky because my mother-in-law is going to be my doula. She had 7 vaginal births (some in hospital, some at home, some with pit and epi, some all natural). She has also been at the births of all 9 of her grandchildren and has coached several of her friends thourgh their home births too.

I just love her so much and can't think of a better person to be my doula.

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doulala
by on Nov. 9, 2009 at 3:27 AM

WONDERFUL!!!      Are you planning to be at home?

Quoting sissychristi:

I am so lucky because my mother-in-law is going to be my doula. She had 7 vaginal births (some in hospital, some at home, some with pit and epi, some all natural). She has also been at the births of all 9 of her grandchildren and has coached several of her friends thourgh their home births too.

I just love her so much and can't think of a better person to be my doula.


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doulala
by on Nov. 11, 2009 at 7:11 PM

(bump~)

Any doula users out there??



Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers ~ strong, competent, capable mothers who trust themselves and know their inner strength.

~Barbara Katz Rothma


When you change the way you view birth, the way you birth will change. -Mongan


sissychristi
by on Nov. 11, 2009 at 7:29 PM

I wanted a home birth but this is my first baby and I am 45 minutes from the hospital should I have to be transferred.

Second, my insurance covers midwives but only if used in the hospital or birth center.

But, I have become close to the midwives at the birth center and the atmosphere is completely calming. I am VERY confident in birthing there.

Quoting doulala:

WONDERFUL!!!      Are you planning to be at home?

Quoting sissychristi:

I am so lucky because my mother-in-law is going to be my doula. She had 7 vaginal births (some in hospital, some at home, some with pit and epi, some all natural). She has also been at the births of all 9 of her grandchildren and has coached several of her friends thourgh their home births too.

I just love her so much and can't think of a better person to be my doula.



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sissychristi, Pregnancy Group Mod


doulala
by on Nov. 11, 2009 at 8:37 PM
Quoting sissychristi:

I wanted a home birth but this is my first baby and I am 45 minutes from the hospital should I have to be transferred.

Second, my insurance covers midwives but only if used in the hospital or birth center.

But, I have become close to the midwives at the birth center and the atmosphere is completely calming. I am VERY confident in birthing there.

Quoting doulala:

WONDERFUL!!!      Are you planning to be at home?

Quoting sissychristi:

I am so lucky because my mother-in-law is going to be my doula. She had 7 vaginal births (some in hospital, some at home, some with pit and epi, some all natural). She has also been at the births of all 9 of her grandchildren and has coached several of her friends thourgh their home births too.

I just love her so much and can't think of a better person to be my doula.

Your birth center looks great, similar to the one where my babies were born.   :-D     I loved my experience, and also became very close to my MWs.    It was my WONDERFUL experiences there that set me out on the road of wanting to help other moms have better experiences, too.   ;-)

The knowledge of how to give birth without outside intervention lies deep within each woman. Successful childbirth depends on an acceptance of the process. ~Suzanne Arms


Birth is not an emergency. It is simply an emergence.” - Jeannine Parvati Baker

sissychristi
by on Nov. 11, 2009 at 8:55 PM

I'm surprised at how many people are not considering a doula! It always amazes me that women think it is the job of the doctor, nurse, or midwife to get them through labor. Midwives do more, but even they highly recommend having a doula.

I just couldn't imagine not having someone at my birth who is 100% there to help ME, without "leaving" me to care for the medical aspect of birth.

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doulala
by on Nov. 11, 2009 at 9:07 PM


Quoting sissychristi:

I'm surprised at how many people are not considering a doula! It always amazes me that women think it is the job of the doctor, nurse, or midwife to get them through labor. Midwives do more, but even they highly recommend having a doula.

I just couldn't imagine not having someone at my birth who is 100% there to help ME, without "leaving" me to care for the medical aspect of birth.

It depends on what women want out of their birth experience, I guess.   Unfortunately, I think that many moms don't know how absolutely amazing and wonderful natural birth can be.    It can be bliss!   :-D       

Why settle for   ...just getting baby out safely  when mom can become empowered and strong AND have a safe(r) birth with good support?

It seems like more moms are getting turned on to birth doulas.   There are more doulas available...  But too many moms don't know about them yet.       I hope to spread the word whenever I can.   :-)





  • Doulas mother the mother.       :-)
  • Every woman who wants a doula should have one!      :-)
  • If you don't know your options you don't have any.      ~Korte & Scaer
  • If a doula were a drug, it would be unethical not to use it.    -John H. Kennell, MD
  • Women's strongest feelings (in terms of their birthings), positive and negative, focus on the way they were treated by their caregivers.       ~Annie Kennedy & Penny Simkin
  • labor is not about dilation.  Your body knows how to give birth whether or not you have a pelvic exam during labor.  Birthing women need encouragement to trust their bodies, and to be the stars of their own labors.     ~The Doula Guide to Birth

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