ok ladies i got a question for you, have any of ur husbands or SO NOT want to be in the delivery room, my hubby says he dose not want to be in the delivery room becasue he was in there for his first 3 (my stepkids) and he really dosnt want to go through it again. In a way it bothers me seeing as this is my first. Would u be pissed if ur hubby or so didnt want to be in there with u when u deliver????
OK So im updating this My hubby finally said last night (1/13) that he may talk a lot of shit but when it comes down to it he will be right there with me. Which is honsitly what i figured would happen when it came down to it.
I think it would have made me cry and wonder why.. but he wanted to be there.. He was afraid that he wouldn't want to see our DD being born.. but just be there and hold my hand.. but he was down there right with the OB watching it all.. LOL. I am surprised he didn't freak.
Well~ he is being honest about his feelings. You can't force feelings onto another person. So if you want him there, talk with him about why. Let him know how important it is to you that he receives the baby at baby's first breath...
- We have a secret in our culture, and it's not that birth is painful. It's that women are strong. ~Harm
- Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds. ~Einstein
- To know the way ahead, ask those coming back. ~Chinese proverb
I would be extremelly upset/hurt by it... ESPECIALLY if it is my first. I would want the support, whether he's "been there/done that" before. I would seriously discuss this with him and let him know how you NEED/WANT the support for you AND for the baby!!!
My feelings are hurt for you... kinda makes me angry actually.
Wow I would be hurt! He helped you get pregnant then he can at least do is be @ the head of the bed talking to you, helping you, holding your hand! I think Id be kicking his butt!! I know you cant change his mind & feelings, but SOME PEOPLE need to learn you do things even if you dont WANT too when your married!! I hope he changes his mind!!:)
Personally I would be hurt and pissed off if my husband or SO didn't want to be in the room. I would find it as a disrespect towards me. I would also think that it was selfish. If it was me I would ask him why he wouldn't want to be in there and see if he could come up with a good reason.
Exactly this...maybe you could pinpoint what exactly is bothering him about it. If he's really just "bored" with the idea then I would be PISSED.
Quoting desertwannab:
I would be extremelly upset/hurt by it... ESPECIALLY if it is my first. I would want the support, whether he's "been there/done that" before. I would seriously discuss this with him and let him know how you NEED/WANT the support for you AND for the baby!!!
My feelings are hurt for you... kinda makes me angry actually.
i would be VERY upset... it seems like he's saying this baby is not as important as his first 3. NOT nice
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