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my stupid husband!!!!

Posted by on Nov. 22, 2009 at 5:44 PM
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so i am 33 weeks pregnant and i am not exactly a small woman but i would hope to god that my husband still found me attractive???? well more and more lately i have found that he is watching porn on the computer and hiding it from me!!! it never used to bother me until he stopped having sex with me on a regular basis and starting hiding it on the computer!!! he's just so f-ing stupid. i tried to talk to him about it and he said that i am lying that he does not watch porn on the computer, but how can he lie it's not me looking up Asian porn on the computer!!!! and no one else lives with us except our 11 month old daughter?? not to mention that he has stopped coming to bed at night to watch the stupid soft core porn that comes on the movie channels late night!!!! it never use to bother me am i wrong for letting it bother me now?


Posted by on Nov. 22, 2009 at 5:44 PM
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penguinbabe44
by on Nov. 22, 2009 at 5:52 PM

No, you're not wrong. I would be bothered alot by that actually. It's not fair to you and it's somewhat cheating if he's doing it regularally. Especially since you had recently had a baby and are pregnant that is a huge turn off and it makes you feel just horrible. If I caught my bf doing that I would let him know that it bothers me and him lying about it its just making it worse. You caught him so he needs to at least admit it. What if your daughter caught him watching that when she is older. How would he feel? It's not a good habbit and if he isn't watching it with you to have a good time then he shouldn't be on those sites/channels.

Good luck to you and I hope you tell him that you're not going to put up with that. You need attention not those girls on the television and computer. Let him know that. 

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glenda09
by on Nov. 22, 2009 at 6:00 PM

No, you're not wrong and have a right to feel the way you do. I know how that feels. My husband did that when I was pregnant with my son over 4 years ago. I caught him from the history then started deleting it when I went to google I typed in one letter and a bunch of stuff that he looked up came up. It was just me and him and he said that when he clicked on things those would come up. Then he had our door locked while I fell asleep on the couch. I went outside and looked in the window and saw him watching that crap.. I felf like I was cheated on!!! I banged on the window and scared him to death there was no denying it now. He said that his eyes were closed and he was listening to it thinking of me! HAHAHAHAHA Well I broke the movie his friend gave him and now its different. That was before we were married and he says being married that is cheating so hasnt done it. I just know how it feels sorry you are going through that right now.

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by Emerald Member on Nov. 22, 2009 at 6:31 PM

Your not wrong at all. I would be really mad!

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K.a.C.87
by on Nov. 22, 2009 at 6:32 PM

it would def bother me too! im sorry u are going thru this....put a password on the computer so he cant get on anymore! lol

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tory_armywife
by on Nov. 22, 2009 at 6:39 PM

I know this may sound cruel, but I think some men watch porn more often while their SO is pregnant because they don't feel attracted to them while they are pregnant. It doesn't make sense, and its down right wrong. I think a husband should view his wife as beautiful no matter the age or weight gain or other mother nature issues.

No, you are not in the wrong for feeling the way you do. I would be very hurt & betrayed if my DH did that to me. He's in Iraq right now, so the porn that he does watch is understandable because he's not here with me to fullfill his intimate needs. He also loves the fact I'm pregant (I think it turns him on) and I send him pictures of me via email and he loves to look at those too. But if he were home with me and he did what your DH is doing, well lets just say his $700 laptop would be $700 shattered junk. LoL! I don't take certain issues lightly, and lying about stuff that could jeopardize a marriage is one big thing I never take lightly. Your DH needs to respect your feelings.

AmandaAwesome
by on Nov. 22, 2009 at 6:44 PM

You're not wrong at all for thinking that. MY husband will watch it right in front of me, and touch himself! I know, TMI, my bad.

But I am not even huge, I am just 15 weeks!!! I feel for you, I really do. Hope everything works out. I can't believe he'd lie to you about that. How stupid... Not him, the fact that he would lie.

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Jackie416
by on Nov. 22, 2009 at 6:46 PM

I would be very upset too. I dont like my husband looking at that stuff and have had issues with it too in the past.

tory_armywife
by on Nov. 22, 2009 at 6:49 PM


Quoting AmandaAwesome:

You're not wrong at all for thinking that. MY husband will watch it right in front of me, and touch himself! I know, TMI, my bad.

But I am not even huge, I am just 15 weeks!!! I feel for you, I really do. Hope everything works out. I can't believe he'd lie to you about that. How stupid... Not him, the fact that he would lie.

Most men will typically lie about watching porn. IDK maybe its in their egotistical genes to lie. LoL! But yeah it is stupid to lie about it, I mean, we women are pretty damn smart & we always know when they are lying, or at least most of the time anyway. My DH once thought he could hide anything from me. WRONG!!! :) But after a few discussions about his lying (and my nagging) he hasn't lied to me much since then, maybe a few white lies on occassion, but nothing major. If DH loves you like he says, he should have no problem watching porn with you, or at least not watching it at all if if hurts you that much.

jkmeier8909
by on Nov. 22, 2009 at 6:50 PM

i know exactly how you feel. my husband does it all the time. i have actually woken up with him next to me playing with himself. it kind of made me laugh at first but when it started happening all the time it made me mad. i don't care if he does it while i'm not here or whatever but he does it while in home and in the next room. he even did it before i was pregnant. i actually walked out into the living room last night to him layin on the couch doing it.  i've found that talking to him does no good because he doesn't really ever listen to anything i have to say, kind of like i'm invisible.

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flyfree55
by on Nov. 22, 2009 at 7:09 PM

my bf watched porn but we still had sex he just did it so he didnt have to ask me to have sex more then i want. he watches more porn then that its bad

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