thanksgiving dilema

ok so yesterday my daughter developed hives and had a low grade fever.  she is 1.  i took her to the doc and she said it was a virus.  so, we were going to go to my side for thanksgiving, but now we dont know what to do.  her hives have cleared up in some areas and her fever is now gone this morning.  i asked for the input of myfamily members, and one said she wanted to play it safe and not have us come (she is pregnant), the other said prob not contagious...she would just have to be careful (she has a 3 month old baby).  it kind of ticks me off that i have to be so careful when ive known about times where my sibs kids have been around my kids right after getting better from flu or cold...or even when they have been sick.  oh well just had to vent a little.  what would you do? 

im thinking about just opting out of it because i would hate to get the blame of an illness when they prob would have picked it up elsewhere anyhow.  one sister actually kept track of how many times my kids have gotten her family sick (the one with the 3 month old), i told her that really pissed me off that she would do something like that and tell ppl when i always disclose illnesses...she did apologize.  and it stinks because my sister who i havent seen for almost a year is back home, so im having a really hard time deciding.