why are people so quick to judge???!!!

I would just tell them that the form you have is hereditary and that maybe they should get all the facts before they start to run their mouths..

OR (and this is something I'm waiting to use on a coworker the next time she feels like expressing an opinion on me) you can tell them that until they become your mother, they have no right to comment on anything in your life and just need to shut the hell up!

Actually HPV is very common. 2 out of 3 women have it and take it from me (a nurse and also have HPV) that HPV is no longer considered an STD bc of how many women who have been in a monogomous relationship have it. You can get it if it's in your genetic makeup alone. No one should make you feel awful esp since you have cervical cancer. I'm not good with comebacks but just tell them "You are an AWFUL person for saying such judgemental comments to someone who has cancer I hope karma doesn't bite you in ass for your ignorance"

ppl should learn just keep their big mouths shut!  so sorry to hear about the cancer.  i hope that it all turns out well. 

that's crappy!  just like pregnancy, std's can be transferred after having sex only one time, and unfortunately, many go without symptoms in men so they just aren't aware that they are putting you at risk.  What an old-fashioned, and extremely ignorant judgement to make against you!  I'm sorry to hear about your difficult news.  All the best to you and your family for a fast and successful recovery.  Blessings.

I know how you feel momma. I had severe cervical cancer that was not at all linked to HPV. When people found out I have had cancer, they would automatically judge and start talking about how HPV is a STD and how cancer could have been avoided if I had used protection...yadda yadda. I never once tested positive for any strain of HPV and still haven't to this day.

Meanwhile, they would say nothing about my treatments, ability to have children again, the possibility of hysterectomy, etc. Right after I would come out of a radiation treatment feeling dealthy ill, they would talk about their HPV/STD and how they had to go to the doctor and get a leep(sp?) procedure. Not one word of concern would ever follow. It was as though I was just experiencing some insignificant STD.

Didn't seem to matter that what I had was CANCER and NOT just possible abnormal cells that, if left untreated, had a one in 1,000 chance of possible becoming cancer in 10 years (but was more likely to clear up on it's own before then).

Hang in there and don't let anyone talk you down. You have NOTHING to feel guilty about. You know that you didn't sleep around and you know that this is genetic. It is such a hard thing to experience and the thought of hysterectomy is just overwhelming to any woman. It would be good for you to seek a counselor to talk to about all of this. My mom kept telling me to talk to someone when I was going through it and until the doctor said "hysterectomy" I refused. After I found someone to talk to, it really helped me get my feelings out and be able to fight harder, but also be ready to grieve if I lost my uterus.

Come in anytime and talk about what you are going through. Some of us will back you up and tell those who judge to get their own life and butt out of yours.

I actually have HSV and HPV, I got HSV before I even had sex, and HPV from my last serious bf(3 years). Just like getting pregnant, ALL IT TAKES IS ONCE. People have such a negative out look on STD's but if you're having sex...its very likely. The ONLY people that have ANY right to judge are those that have never had sex.

Another issue is that many people don't know you can spread herpes and hpv even WITH the use of condoms. "Cold Sores" ARE herpes, no matter how many people go, "oh, no, its not the same thing," it IS caused by the same virus. If someone has a cold sore on their mouth, and then performs oral sex on their partner they will pass it along. And the 1st person could have gotten cold sores from drinking after someone else as a kid and have no clue. An issue with HPV is that generally men are carriers, and have no signs or symptoms. There is no test to see if men are carriers, the only way for them to know is to have a history of partners who ended up with HPV after dating them...there is just so much misinformation and stigma attached to these things that noone really gets proper info about them.

As far as the ladies talking sh*t- ignore them. You are going through a very difficult time and don't need the extra stress on your shoulders, and their situations don't even apply to you. I would maybe tell them that they should do some more research on HPV before they just assume what has happened with you, and tell them they should be much more sensitive because you're going through so much more than having a few warts frozen off. I've dealt with this stuff since I was 16, going through highschool with an STD was traumatizing. Noone else knew, but it was debilitating to my self-esteem. I now know that a virus has nothing to do with who I am, and it has actually given me confidence in my SELF, and not some publicly accepted image. 

Best of luck Mama, Sorry to be so long winded!