does this mean im not ready..?

im 18 and worried but it happened and you gotta make the best. my 16year old cuz has a baby and shes fine she w her baby all the time. she doesnt feel shes missing out

thats good.  im excited for him to get here, and your belly is freakin adorable!how far along are you?

Quoting flyfree55:

im 18 and worried but it happened and you gotta make the best. my 16year old cuz has a baby and shes fine she w her baby all the time. she doesnt feel shes missing out

when i had my dd1 i was 19 and lived 600 and some miles away from my parents... my parents came to visit for a couple weeks and then they were gone... leaving me and my baby all alone... i had my lousy excuse for a husband (now ex) but he was always at work or off with his girlfriend and i had my in laws who lived about twenty minutes away but i was to indignant to ask for help... after leaving my ex the only time i wasn't with my dd was when i was at work... i guess i just felt like i had to step up to the plate and do what i had to do to provide the very best for her....

but are you happy with how everything turned out?  i am going to do what i have to for him definitely, i am just kinda scared.. its not that im not excited for him, because i am very very excited, i guess i am just worried that im going to fail as a mom=[[[

Quoting KokoJones:

when i had my dd1 i was 19 and lived 600 and some miles away from my parents... my parents came to visit for a couple weeks and then they were gone... leaving me and my baby all alone... i had my lousy excuse for a husband (now ex) but he was always at work or off with his girlfriend and i had my in laws who lived about twenty minutes away but i was to indignant to ask for help... after leaving my ex the only time i wasn't with my dd was when i was at work... i guess i just felt like i had to step up to the plate and do what i had to do to provide the very best for her....

I was 23 when I has my son and I didn't let him stay the night with my mom till he was 6months. Also I am a SAHM and I am with my son 24/7 That being said sometimes you need time away from you baby. And every now and then my mom keeps him over night she enjoys him she lives alone. And its nice Ya sometimes it happens every weekend for a few weeks but its not anyone's business how I take care of mine. So if you need a break don't feel bad being a mommy is very demanding job and very rewarding at the same time. Good luck I think you will be fine when that time comes. :o)

I had my daughter at 17 and i do not feel like i missed out on anything. Seriously, I never partied, did drugs, or drank before i got pregnant so i did not have to give anything up. My daughter is the most amazing thing in my life and I can't go a day without her. People offer to babysit a lot but honestly my husband and I are happiest with her, but we still go on dates at least once a month. I also am in my second year of college full time. I haven't missed out on anything. Having children young is challenging, but it is so rewarding! Also, i am pregnant with our second and last child. When I am 37 my children will be 20 and 18. My husband and I will have freedom and still be young enough to enjoy it! I do not regret one thing. I look forward to being able to see my grand children and great grandchildren, God willing! =)

I had my 1st at 19. I think a really great way to make sure you " don't turn out like that"  is to breastfeed. It sounds awful, and I don't mean it that way or that it's a punishment or anything. I just mean that the baby is so dependent on you that you will have little oportunity to leave at the drop of a hat. My daughter would never take a bottle, so she was never left till she was about a year old. I don't regret it at all. It wasn't always easy but I think it made me a really great mom to her when it may have been easier to have someone else help me.

i definitely plan to breastfeed him=]  haha im worried about the first two weeks, but i hear once you make it past that hump everything gets easier.

Quoting housefullofkidz:

I had my 1st at 19. I think a really great way to make sure you " don't turn out like that"  is to breastfeed. It sounds awful, and I don't mean it that way or that it's a punishment or anything. I just mean that the baby is so dependent on you that you will have little oportunity to leave at the drop of a hat. My daughter would never take a bottle, so she was never left till she was about a year old. I don't regret it at all. It wasn't always easy but I think it made me a really great mom to her when it may have been easier to have someone else help me.

That's true! I breastfed my daughter and it was the most amazing thing i swear. It makes me sad to hear people give up after only a week or two, because that's the hardest part! It only goes up from there, and it is actually much easier than having to worry about carrying bottles and formula everywhere in my opinion!

Quoting swesolek6:

i definitely plan to breastfeed him=]  haha im worried about the first two weeks, but i hear once you make it past that hump everything gets easier.

Quoting housefullofkidz:

I had my 1st at 19. I think a really great way to make sure you " don't turn out like that"  is to breastfeed. It sounds awful, and I don't mean it that way or that it's a punishment or anything. I just mean that the baby is so dependent on you that you will have little oportunity to leave at the drop of a hat. My daughter would never take a bottle, so she was never left till she was about a year old. I don't regret it at all. It wasn't always easy but I think it made me a really great mom to her when it may have been easier to have someone else help me.

Hahaa- I had my daughter at 17 and DID "party." I wasn't out every weekend, but I went to my best friends house like every weekend and got into mischief there. I stopped doing most of that when I met me ex, I moved in with him not too long thereafter and was pregnant pretty quick after that. After you have your baby I'm sure you will get invited to go out with friends again- but most of the time you won't. For me when my friends would call to go hang out or drink, I'd be like...um...I have a BABY...DUH, lol. Occasionally a wee bit of bitterness would rise in my throat that I wasn't living the "college life," but really kids are SO much more fun than people tell you when you're a pregnant teen! Its all- "Babies having babies, tsk tsk" and not acknowledging at all that we have decided to take on the responsibilities of raising a child WILLINGLY. Not necessarily planned, lol, but our babies are wanted. 

All in all my daughter was the best thing to happen to me. She has given me drive and purpose like I know I wouldn't have had without her, even without the support of her Dad. 

Just make sure you don't stop living. My ex was way over protective and we were super broke, so we never went ANYWHERE- even if you just go cruise the mall or to the park or the dollar store to pick out a cheep toy, don't keep yourself locked up in the house, it'll drive you nuts not matter HOW old you are!

Its completely normal to feel the way you do. I was so worried I wouldn't know what to do with my baby, I had never been around little kids ever, and I feel like I am a wonderful Mom. Congrats! And don't worry- the fact that you ARE worrying shows you will be a great mom :)