Not as excited with second pregnancy?

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Baby #2 [Est. due date - June 8th, 2010] Can't wait!

I am sure you are not the only one feeling this way. It is normal to have different emotions about being pregnant no matter what you wanted before the pregnancy. I have a friend that went the whole nine months not feeling connected to her baby and the minute she was born it hit her all at once. It is different for each of us and just hang in there and know that with time you will begin to feel connected and love this baby the same as you do your daughter. Good Luck mama! 

 

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What you're feeling is normal! I wasn't TRYING to have baby number 2, we were on birth control, so I think that's one of the reasons I had a big disconnect in the beginning. We knew we wanted more children...we just never anticipated it to be this soon! For the whole first trimester i was pretty upset and not very excited. I'm a big planner so this pregnancy really shook things up. After we found out we were having a boy, THAT'S when the excitement set in. We have a daughter so a boy would be something new and exciting. After my 18 week ultrasound things started to get better. Our landlords really want us to stay, so they offered to lower our rent by almost $200! We accepted..so that helped my husband not be so stressed about money. And now that i am 30 weeks pregnant i am THRILLED. It took me a long way to get here, but I'm sure it will happen for you too! Now i am so glad that my children will be close together, and I can't imagine my daughter being 5 before we have another like we originally planned. Everything will work itself out...don't feel upset about not being so excited. There is nothing like a first pregnancy, so its hard to get THAT excited for your second. But I'm sure you'll be excited when you get farther along. I am already counting down the days to my due date...I cannot wait to meet our son!

dont worry i felt the same way with this baby. I think i was just confused because the love i have for my daughter is unexplainable and i was scared that i wasent going to be able to love 2 of them the same. But as i got farther along and i started to feel her kick and move around thats when  i started to get more excited about her. Dont worry about it because i felt the same exact way!! Just wait alittle longer until you can feel her and actually feel pregnant then i think you will start to feel different. Hoped this helped! :] 

 

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I am almost 16 Weeks and I do not feel connected to this baby yet. I didn't feel connected when I was pregnant with DD either until I was far enough along to feel her move. When you don't feel like your pregnant it is so easy to feel disconnected. But I know once I can feel this little baby, everything will feel right.

I worried about the same thing.  Then when my second child (another girl) was born, it hit me within seconds, the undenying realization that love is infinite.  I love her as much as my first and it didn't disturb my love for the first in any way.  I still remember how profound it was and how amazing the realization. 

Another incredible thing:  it works the same with your third and fourth.  I decided after my second that it didn't matter how many children you have. Love just grows to cover the space and it never takes from any  of your other children. An interesting thing is this:  Now my children (except for one) are all adults.  My youngest is 16.  After they are grown, marry, leave and start their own lives....remember this.  Your love stays no matter how they treat you.  However, your connection with them varies. 

That infinite feeling of love that you always have for all of your children is never hurt by how they treat you.  I have three children who love and respect me every single breathing moment and my oldest who has treated me worse than anyone has in my entire life.  I still love her just as much but they are the ones to choose how much of that love that you feel will be accepted. They choose.  The mother doesn't always choose. When they are tiny, that is our time.  When they grow and they are under the influence of others, that is theirs. 

I used to think that my second born taught me how infinite love is.  Now, I realize it's my first by how badly she treats myself, her grandmother, etc., and I still care and love her just as much. Don't worry.  You will love this child, unconditionally.  Love is everpresent, and ever powerful. It is, literally, God within us. 

yeah i am not on my second but dont plan to hav a second because i would feel errible if a favored one child over the other which i think is completely normal but because of that (at least for now) i will not even consider having another kid

 no mama you are not alone! I felt the same way with this baby.... she will be number 3 and this was very unplanned... i just found out I am sick with M.S. and to have to deal with all that was not any better. i felt really bad about not being excited because of my sickness but now that i am 26 weeks and she is moving I am feeling so much better.... i am still in shock when i find myself back in the baby section of the store LOL

I didn't feel connected to either of my boys when I was pregnant with them. I hate the pregnancy process and being pregnant so I just wanted them out. Once they were born it changed (I didn't cry or anything but that's just not my style). It's normal. Some women do, some women don't. I personally find it difficult to connect to something I can't see normally.

Also, with a first baby you're dealing with the anxiety and excitement of the unknown. You don't know what it's like being a mom or what labor will be like. Pregnancy is brand new for you. Of course you feel different. With your second, you know more of what to expect.

I feel like I'm being "cheated" by getting another girl. I mean, I begged God for this baby, & now I'm just being unrateful :(

Baby #2 [Est. due date - June 8th, 2010] Can't wait!