Confused about conception

Get a paternity test when the baby is born!  That is the only way to know for sure.  My exhusband and I had broken up before we got married and we still lived together and slept together off and on during the break up.  When we first broke up I spent the night with a guy I had been best friends with for years.  That one night unfortunately ended that friendship.  But anyways I wanted the baby to be the friend's because he was a male model and gorgeous and the ex not so much.  Shallow I know but I was young.  So according to my LMP my due date was 3/26 which ended up being the day she was born.  According to every calendar I looked at that meant conception was sometime between 6/29-7/7.  So for 13yrs I thought that ruled out the friend because we only spent that one night together on 6/16.  So I figured no way it was him.  Until we got back in touch and did a paternity test.  The friend IS the father not the ex.  The situation has been very hard on everyone.  So please please do not rely on any assumed dates just get a test done as soon as you can!

You definitiely want to do a test.  Sperm can live in your body for 3 days + so depending on when you ovulated, both guys' sperm could have been present as possibilities when fertilization happened.  Testing will only help you to know so you can stop worrying about it too.  For both you and your baby I hope that the daddy is the one you want.  Good luck, and keep us posted.

I wouldn't trust the dates either really all the dates are is a guess. When the baby is born do the test. If you wanted you can keep both out of it and just test the baby and your other child to see if there is any match there if not then it is probably the friends baby then you can ask to see if he wants to have a test done to match him and the baby. At least this way you keep them both out of it til you really need on or the other to be tested. No reason to bring the ex back into your life for no reason.  Good luck to you!!!!

Get your own gender prediction!

I found out that the conception date is pretty much an estimated time of conception. If you really want to know who the father is you need a paternity test. Especially if the intercourse between the two men where only days apart.

If you need someone to talk to you can always send me a message. I know how you feel. My husband and I had seperated and filed for divorce last summer, we have since then gotten back together and work things out, but while we were seperated I had a fling with a good friend of mine and got pregnant. He then decided he wanted to be with me forever and I didn't feel like that so he made threats saying if I didn't stay he would kill my husband, he would make sure my kids are taken away. Then he emotionally hurt me by saying crap like if I leave he is going to lose his job and child support for his other kids would be lost and that would be my fault and that I was only thinking of myself. For crying out loud he would freak out screaming if I accidently feel asleep on the couch or was sick in the bathroom and not in bed next to him. To shorten this up other things happen and I left him and told him he was not to be involved in mine or the baby's life. Since then he has made little threats and has respected my wishes because all contacts was kept through e-mails and IM's which I saved and he has asked me not to make a legal move. (He is military and is facing being discharged if another incident is reported).

So yeah like I said if you ever need to talk I am here for you!

Thank you all. I just don't know what to do if it does turn out to be his. This man mentally and emotionally abused me ever since i was 16. I just dont want to see him at all. I dont even get child support for my daughter because i dont want him in my life. We're about to go to court for him abusing me so hopefully he gets jail time and is out of our lives. I can't even be happy about this pregnancy because of the possibilities