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First sit down with Dr?

Posted by on Feb. 20, 2010 at 1:07 PM
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with our first pregnancy we had a MC in Sept at about 5 weeks along.  I am currently 8 weeks along with pregnancy number 2.  I've been in the Dr office for the last 3 weeks with the current little one, they are now happy with the progression of the pregnancy. The next appointment is a sit down with the Dr to talk... but I have no idea what to ask the Dr.  Is it too early to ask about birth plans? Could u please give me some advice on what I should be asking or thinking about?  Thanks so much for any help! 

by on Feb. 20, 2010 at 1:07 PM
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doulala
by on Feb. 20, 2010 at 1:12 PM

It is not too early!

You are interviewing for a good provider, someone who will help you to work for what you want.

They provide a service, you can interview several care providers to get a good fit!   ;-)

Do you already have a birth Plan/preferences?




Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers ~ strong, competent, capable mothers who trust themselves and know their inner strength.

~Barbara Katz Rothma


When you change the way you view birth, the way you birth will change. -Mongan


ladybugpeace
by on Feb. 20, 2010 at 1:21 PM

All of the women in my family have had C-sections... so, I have no idea what to expect.  If at all possible I'd like to have a natural birth, but scared cause I don't do well with pain.  But, I want what will be best for my child.  We are a military fam, so neither of our families will be with us, so I've been ?ing DH about a midwife or Doula to help us through the process.  He has already made the comment that I might need someone other than just him, he seems very nervous about the delivery in general.

doulala
by on Feb. 20, 2010 at 1:35 PM
Quoting ladybugpeace:

All of the women in my family have had C-sections... so, I have no idea what to expect.  If at all possible I'd like to have a natural birth, but scared cause I don't do well with pain.  But, I want what will be best for my child.  We are a military fam, so neither of our families will be with us, so I've been ?ing DH about a midwife or Doula to help us through the process.  He has already made the comment that I might need someone other than just him, he seems very nervous about the delivery in general.

It is common to have fear of the unknown --for both parents!    But there is a remedy:  getting self-educated, informed, and supported!   ;-)

The more the both of you can get your concerns out and questions answered, the better!  

If you're hoping for a natural birth, choosing a "Normal Birth Specialist" (Midwife) will better your odds.
Choosing to birth in an environment that is more conducive to your preferences is very important!
I think that finding the right provider and location will make you both feel more at ease and confident!  :-)


This is a helpful list of questions I use for midwifery:




Questions to Ask a Midwife

Experience

  1. What is your general philosophy about pregnancy and birth?
  2. Do you let us do whatever we want during labor? (Food, positions, water, etc.)
  3. What is your education and training as a midwife?
  4. How many years have you been practicing?
  5. Are you a mother yourself? How old are your children now?
  6. How were your babies born?
  7. Do you work alone or with a partner or assistant? If you work with someone, what is their experience?
  8. Do you participate in a local midwife peer review group?  How many meetings have you attended in the past year?
  9. How many births have you attended as the primary caregiver?
  10. What is your experience with breech births? How many have you attended?
  11. What is your experience with twins? How many have you attended?
  12. What is your experience with VBACS? How many have you attended?

Prenatal Care

  1. How many births are you attending now? Do you have a maximum, and how do you manage to avoid too many commitments?
  2. If I am planning a home birth, do you come to my home any time before I go into labor? Do you provide supplies or literature to help us prepare?
  3. How often will I see you? What do your checkups consist of?
  4. What are your guidelines concerning weight gain, nutrition, prenatal vitamins, and exercise? What are your standards for pre-eclampsia?
  5. Do you require that I take a childbirth education class? Do you teach such a class?
  6. Who takes over for you if you go on vacation or get sick?

Hospital and Obstetrician

  1. Do you attend births in a birthing center, home or hospital?
  2. How do you handle emergencies? Under what circumstances would you transfer?
  3. What is your transfer rate?
  4. Would you stay with me in the hospital?
  5. Do you require that I see a physician during my pregnancy even if everything is all right?
  6. Do you have guidelines or restrictions about who can give birth at home?
  7. Under what circumstances do you induce labor with pitocin?
  8. What is your protocol to induce labor naturally?
  9. What is your c-section rate?
  10. What is your episitomy rate?

General Labor

  1. What kind of equipment do you bring to a birth?
  2. Are you permitted to administer any drugs during labor?
  3. How many people are allowed to be around?
  4. When should I call you after my labor begins?
  5. Do you wait until the cord has stopped pulsating before it gets cut?
  6. Will you allow my partner to be as active at the birth as he desires?
  7. How much time do you allow for the delivery of the placenta?

Financial Matters

  1. What are your fees and what do they include?
  2. Can you submit your charges to my insurance company?
  3. What payment arrangements do you make?

The Baby

  1. Have you ever had to resuscitate a baby?
  2. Do you examine the baby after birth?
  3. Do you give eyedrops or shots to the baby?
  4. Do you have a pediatrician you work with or recommend?
  5. Will you help me with breastfeeding?
  6. How do you feel about circumcision?
  7. How often do you come to see me after I give birth?
  8. Do you provide or know of anyone who will help new mothers after birth?





Birth is not only about making babies. Birth is about making mothers ~ strong, competent, capable mothers who trust themselves and know their inner strength.

~Barbara Katz Rothma


When you change the way you view birth, the way you birth will change. -Mongan


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