My ex husband finally agreed to give up his rights to our children even though he has had nothing to do with them in 4 years. My husband will have officially adopted them next month maybe sooner. We are waiting for a court date. My older son will be changing his name from his bio dads name to carson john grey. As it is not a reminder of his bio dad. My other son is keeping his just changing his last. I feel like finally we will be a real happy family with just one mom and 1 dad and thier will be no ?'s from the kids asking why thier sister has diff last name. This will happen before the new baby is born. Although I do have to say I am very saddened that my ex did not love his children enough to be a dad and I had to watch my children go through all the pain and suffering they have with him and the kind of father he has been to them. I think this will really be good emotionally for my boys they are 10, and 7. I was a little confused on to let my older son change his name but agreed with him he is the one that carries around the constant reminder of his dad and it should be his chioce. It will be hard to get used to and hope he doesn't get teased.
I'm so happy for you, that's great news (though it's sad it had to come to that). I hope you guys find a fun way to celebrate as a family!
I'm glad to hear things are going well for your family. My father was MIA for the longest time while I was growing up, and to this day, I am closer to my Daddy (who is my half-sister's dad). Even though he's not married to my mom anymore, so he's not even my stepfather, he still considers me his daughter just as much he does my sister. I love him so much that I would have asked him to walk me down the aisle at my wedding except that I asked my brother to 1) honor my brother and 2) avoid hurt feelings, since my bio father has come around and we have some sort of relationship now.
I'm glad that he relinquished his right though. My bio father never would and I still think it would have been better if he had. He didn't use them at all until becoming a quadriplegic.
Congrats! I am just waiting for both my DH and my ex to get back form deployments to do this oursevles. We started it before the deployments and were unable to get a court date before my Dh left for deployment because of the holidays.
I can't wait till next april when my ex is back from deployment so we can get it done. It will be so nice to be read of him and all his drama! LOL
Good luck and congrats again!
All I have to do now is finger print kit and get a money order and set a court date. The hardest part was the consent. He always said that he did not want them but noone else could have them eaither but they started taking his checks and giving them to me and he decided his kids were not worth child support. The is def not an issure with me even though I could really use it I love my kids more than anything and thier security is my only concern. They deserve love and a real family. I remember him always saying to me when I was pregnant I hope that baby dies to. We had 2 other losses. I know if something happend to me without this adoption they would go to him that kind of man. That scared me. What do all of you think about the name change for my 10 year old?
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- busymomkristin
on Mar. 17, 2010 at 10:20 PM