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Havent talked in3 days and now.......

Posted by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 9:32 PM
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He left to do an employee meeting at the coffee shop. I have been messing with the internet unplugging and plugging it back in over and over again so when mine keeps going out I decided to go downstairs and check too see if my husbands is working. He already had the Internet pulled up so I just decided to hit the back button to see if the Internet got dropped and what do I find? Oh well apparently he has been watching porn videos on his computer today!!!!! Are you serious WTF I cannot believe what I just freekin saw. I am tempted to leave it on there and leave before he gets home I don't think I can do this!!!! I don't even know how to begin to talk to him about this considering I walked in on him about 3 weeks ago jacking off and that was enough for me!!! Ladies don't get me wrong we still have sex just not every day like we used to cause its not that comfortable no matter what position I try. What do I do now>

by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 9:32 PM
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mommyziegler
by Platinum Member on Jun. 27, 2010 at 9:45 PM

i have been having the same issue with my hubby for the last 8 months i wanna say. he wont even touch me now!!! needless to say my marriage is probably ending soon :(

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by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 9:51 PM

Sorry your going through this...DH was at work and I came up on it on the computer and I lost it... I mentioned it to him when he got home and he swore he would never do it again.. about 2 months later the same thing happened and I just about left ... but since he realized how bad it was and how it made me feel he hasn't looked at it since.. actually he doesnt even get on the computer any more just so I don't even think he may be....

I would have some stuff packed and let him see the suitcase when he walks in and if he acts stupid Id let him know what I found and how much it hurt you since you have even told him what it means to you. Ask him if a porn site is worth losing you and your soon to be child over? (or any other kids if you have any) When I brought htis up to my then fiance he realized how un important that really was...  I hope things work out. for you

MommyToBeOfTwo
by on Jun. 28, 2010 at 7:27 AM
I actually temporarily left my hubby over this a year ago.he was buying it on his phone and hiding the computer and all kinds of things.he went and got help.it still isn't fixed yet but he knows if it happens again me and my kids are out the door.
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ginnyk87
by on Jun. 28, 2010 at 7:33 AM

i hate porn, i wish it never existed.  i had issues a few weeks ago and straight up told him if it happens again he will be living in this house all by himself. 

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grapejelly
by on Jun. 28, 2010 at 10:44 PM

i would talk with him about it..  see if you can find out why he is doing it..

motherofzandz
by on Jun. 28, 2010 at 10:49 PM

I found some porn on my hubbies phone once (he swore it was something another guy pulled up while borrowing his phone) But it mad me so mad I threw the phone at his head in front of his mom caused huge soon and went to my aunts. Eventrually he got the point. Stick to your guns if it bothers u don't let it slide!!

mrsbovee
by on Jun. 28, 2010 at 10:50 PM

I used to have a huge problem with hubby and porn but honestly... it's just porn.  Be thankful that he'd rather jack off than go out and cheat. 

Zoeysmommy1023
by on Jun. 28, 2010 at 10:54 PM


Quoting mrsbovee:

I used to have a huge problem with hubby and porn but honestly... it's just porn.  Be thankful that he'd rather jack off than go out and cheat. 


Agreed

ready_for2
by on Jun. 28, 2010 at 10:56 PM

i think its normal for a man to watch porn.... but i havent seen any other posts... is this a serious problem, like him choosing porn over you? or does he just do it when you are too tired/ in too much pain/ in bed/ etc...? if so, i think thats normal. just bc you arent in the mood doesnt mean he isnt.

amkoser
by on Jun. 28, 2010 at 10:58 PM


Quoting mrsbovee:

I used to have a huge problem with hubby and porn but honestly... it's just porn.  Be thankful that he'd rather jack off than go out and cheat. 


I feel the same way, at least it's just the image and not another woman.  (I'm actually surprised my DH hasn't hit the porn sites yet.  We hardly ever are intimate anymore due to how painful it is for me and that he had a kidney removed about 2 months ago.  Just hoping our "dry spell" is over soon!)

You should talk to him, and try remaining calm at first, so he knows how upset you are and how much it hurts you.

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