Awkward situation

Despite her situation if she is a true friend she will get over any of those negative feelings and be truly happy for you, it may be difficult for her at first but I would think being honest would be easier on her feelings then not being honest with her to begin with.  Yes it will be disappointing for her at times and maybe cause her to feel bad but she has to know that in due time and if meant to be she will be a mom too!  I went through something similar with my best friend about a year ago I was wanting to be pregnant so badly but my S.O. wasn't ready at the time and she got pregnant, though I was happy for her it made me feel bad at times and jealous of course but those were feelings I didn't let surface, and made it clear that I was happy that she was being blessed with her child even though I wasn't at that time with mine and now I am!

I wouldn't tell her when you see her this time, especially if she just had a breakdown.   I know you're excited and want to share it with her, but you'd only end up hurting her.    Listen to her problems and be there for her this time, especially since you don't know what caused her breakdown.   Then make plans to see her again and talk to her, so you can tell her.  

This is a tough one...I became pregnant and found on in Jan...I went out with a friend who I've know for 16 years... she has been trying to get pregnant for over 2 years and had several miscarriages...when I told her she said she was happy for me but that she didn't know if she could be a part of me and my baby's life anymore, long story short...she refuses to see me even though we both see the same friends...I try to be understanding to the fact that it''s hard for her, but it's difficult because we were friends for so long....oh and side note...she was mad that I told 2 other of my friends before her...yet she is the one who can't really be happy for me...so telling her might make it difficult with your friendship...but so could not telling her right away....Good luck!

I probably would not mention it. I mean she will find out sooner or latter naturally. If she is having a hard time I would just wait a couple weeks more. But dont hide it from her if it comes up be honest about it.

  From a person whom has dealth with infertility and losses.... Dont say anything right off the bat.......

No one can possibly understand her feelings unless you have been there. Let me give an example....I had a stillbirth a year ago...it was HARD for me to be around my cousin whom was also pregnant..she and I were only 3 weeks apart..now I forced myself to go to her baby shower and such...but to be honest...it deep down was like salt in my wound. When you are TTC and it takes a long time you often feel hopeless about it all...you notice every baby, every pregnant woman and you can easily slip into depression.

I personally forced myself to do many things that other friends on here said they could not handle to do...like go to baby showers and I also did Maternity photo shoots....but I know that 90% of ppl who had gone through what I went through said that they dont know how I did all of that.

SO what I am saying is...that if I had a problem with being around other pregnant people..I know that most others with infertility will definately be upset.

One of my closest friends lost twins and then triplets (2nd trimester) and then was ttc for over a year.  She knew I was getting married last January and we would be trying immediatly to have a baby - I have two older children already.   We talked about it before I got pregnant and she told me that she would be devestated if I didn't tell her.  Yes she would be jealous but more hurt than jealous if I kept it from her.  Luckily she got pregnant IN January and I got pregnant 12 weeks later.   I've been holding my breath that she carries this baby to term so we can share in the joy.  We are both having baby girls and couldn't be happier.

Bottom line- this is a good thing to discuss before hand but now that you are already pregnant- I'd go with how her mood seems when you meet up with her.