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How am I suppose to deal!!

Posted by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 8:34 AM
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So ok I really need to vent! My mother in  law is staying with us until she finds a new place! She has only been here for 2 nights but I already want her to leave! My house is clutterd, her dog is very mean and bites. I have a golden who doesnt hurt a fly and he has to hide from this stupid little ass dog! I hate coming home to her! Who wants to come home to their mother in law! I mean sure there are some cases where you may love to have them around all the time, but not me! I cant do anything without her following me around the house. She told us last night she is using our po box , so shes changed her address to its like ok how long do u plan on staying here? I know I may be over reacting but im a little over five months pregnant my hormones are wack..I cried in the shower this morning, cried blowdrying my hair even! I had to clean out the baby's room so she can use that, im worried she will be here to long and I wont be able to finish the baby's room..and ugh i have all these "worse case" ideas running through my head. I know its not good to stress bc of the baby and I really am trying but any, ANY advice on how to deal with this would be great!! There vent over..Thanks!

* I forgot to mention that the first night she was there her dog attacked my dog and bc of it the dog ran into me and I fell!! I was so mad!! I have been so careful to try and not fall!*

by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 8:34 AM
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by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 8:36 AM

Don't blame you that would get on my nerves. Won't she help you out in anything you are doing? She should contribute in some manner.

by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 8:40 AM
U poor thing... I'm not pregnant and I wouldn't be coping well at all. If it were me, I would give dh 1 wk to find other arangements for HIS mom, or him and his mom would be out on the street. But I've never liked his mom... I think u need to sit dh down and start making plans about his mom.

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by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 8:46 AM
No, your not overreacting at all! I would hate having my mil live with me too! I lived with her for 3 months and it was all I could take! I would tell her she needs to find a place for her dog to stay because your dog was there first even if she has to board him. I would sit her down and let her know what the rules are. I would tell her you need some privacy and if she doesn't like it she can leave!
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by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 9:04 AM
I would sit your dh down and let him know that her being there is really stressing you out. So there for she has only a few wks to find some other living arrangements. I would also make HER dog go somewhere else in the mean time.
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by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 9:09 AM

I love my mother in law but if she was like that I would be hell to no she can go somewhere else my husband and I have a strict no relative can live was us policy unless they contribute in some manner or they can go stay with another family member. Especially if I'm pregnant and I have to clean out MY baby's room no freakin way would my husband allow that. and tell her to put that damn dog outside or in a freakin kennel and go buy a mussel for it. I mean come on now your PREGNANT she should show a little sympathy.

by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 1:02 PM

woah, she's gotta go!

:- /

Is your SO aware of these issues?
When she said until I find a new place, did she say she'd be actively looking?


by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 1:18 PM

Yes she is looking! I have told my SO about it and he just keeps telling me "babe she wont be here long, it will be ok" He does not get why I am so stressed, it doesnt bother him that much, typical man i suppose! LOL As far as the dog issue..I dont even know where to begin on that! I do know I will start leaving my dog upstairs while I am at work bc I dont want my dog to start getting mean bc of her dog. He hasnt yet but I figure the longer he's around her dog maybe it will start to where off..I cant have that with a baby on the way.

by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 1:21 PM

I wouldn't be able to handle my MIL staying at my house! Especially with her her dogs! I would be out of my mind. You have to get her out! Talk to hubby about how this is affecting your mental health & potentially baby's physical health. This stress is not good for either of you! 

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