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Tubes Tied - Pushy Doctor and Complications?

Posted by on May. 29, 2011 at 8:43 PM
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So I went to my doctor's appointment last month, and had to meet one of the doctors in the practice that I go to.  (This was my first time meeting him; so far I don't like any of the other doctors except for my usual OB/GYN I've see the last 6 years.) Since I'm an older mom, he asked me if I wanted to get my tubes tied.  I told him no, I really didn't want to since I'd heard of people who'd had problems after getting their tubes tied.  BIG mistake:  he proceeded to give me a 5-10 minute lecture complete with a hand-drawn diagram of how getting your tubes tied works.  He assured me that if a woman has had complications after getting her tubes tied, it wasn't because she got her tubes tied, it was because of some other reason.  THEN, after I had already told him I wasn't interested, he asked "So, do you think you might want to get your tubes tied?"  What????? I gave him the standard answer I give pushy salesman and mechanics "I'll have to go home and talk to my husband about it."  That usually deters mechanics and salesmen, but he didn't back off:  He said he'd write on my chart that he counseled me and that I was "considering it."

Do you think he was being too pushy?  Have you heard of people that have had complications after getting their tubes tied?

by on May. 29, 2011 at 8:43 PM
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by on May. 29, 2011 at 8:44 PM
Yeah he was being really pushy, and I have heard of people having issues... Like getting pregnant lol.
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by Mandy on May. 29, 2011 at 8:46 PM
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Yes he was and yes I have. He works for you and that is a major medical procedure, not to mention a huge life decision. Maybe he felt you are "too old" to be pregnant again or just wanted the money. Either way he was out of line.

by on May. 29, 2011 at 8:47 PM

Quoting militarywife09:

Yeah he was being really pushy, and I have heard of people having issues... Like getting pregnant lol.
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by on May. 29, 2011 at 8:48 PM

yeah too pushy it your choice I would have said no if god wants to bless me with children he will do so. and yes I my sisters have heavy periods nows and cramp painfully and my gbrothers girlfriend got prego ast month and they had to remove the baby

by on May. 29, 2011 at 8:49 PM
Uummm yes!!! I think that a womans fertility and how Many kids she wants to have with in reasonable age should b up to that woman... Honestly I would of cut him off and said not to be rude but I really don't care I will talk it over with my husband and if I have and questions I will let u know... Don't let any one influence u.
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by on May. 29, 2011 at 8:49 PM
Yes, much too pushy.
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by on May. 29, 2011 at 9:37 PM

I think he was being way too pushy. When you said no he should of shut up about it. My doctor only ask once and thats really only if your over a certain age but once you say no he doesnt ask you again unless you bring it up.

by on May. 29, 2011 at 9:45 PM

Yeah. He was definitely too pushy. As for complications, no more so than any other major operation. My cousin had hers done during her delivery and she went home 3 days later. She stood up to get out of the car when she arrived home and the whole seat was flooded with blood. She had a massive hemorrhage and needed 2 blood transfusions. I think more complications sometimes arise because of being combined with child birth. In a lot of cases, as woman gets her tubes tied while in the hospital for delivery. The loss of blood and being down from just delivering a baby combined can cause extra complications sometimes. I think once you said no he should have moved on.

by on May. 29, 2011 at 11:11 PM
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my mom had her tubes tied and she started having really heavy periods, cramping and frequent periods! (like every other week!)

yes he was too pushy. if you're not interested in a MAJOR surgery that would forever cut off your fertility it is NOT his business. if you wanted to have kids into your 60s (or however long before you get menopause) still NONE of his business!

by Gold Member on May. 29, 2011 at 11:23 PM
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Yeah he was being way pushy. You told him NO and at that point he should of dropped it! There are many complications:

Post Tubal Syndrome (PTS) Symptom List

Many women suffer PTS after having a tubal ligation.

The following is a list of symptoms that are associated with post tubal syndrome (PTS).

PTS is often the result of a rapid decline in estrogen levels due from the blood supply being damaged to the ovaries during the TL surgery. Depending on the damage to the veins and capillaries, blood volume to the ovaries may slightly decrease or can be eliminated completely (isolated ovarian syndrome, common with hysterectomy operations). Many of the symptoms of PTS are associated with having an estrogen/progesterone imbalance.

Other symptoms, such has heavy painful periods may be caused by a hormonal imbalance, could be caused by adenomyosis (bought on by uterus mussel and tissue being damaged, effected by the TL surgery impairing the blood supply to areas of that organ/mussel) or a combination of both.

Other theories of PST and the hormonal imbalance that results after a TL is that "target" or "receptor" cells that are important in the relay of hormonal messages are damaged, destroyed, and or removed during the TL surgery. It is derivable that these target or receptor cells are located within the fallopian tube.

With this in mind, it's possible for a woman to have both her ovaries still functioning to some degree (if blood supply was not damaged), have no major problems with her uterus (again if blood supply was not damaged to that organ), and still be experiencing a PTS in the from of a hormonal imbalance caused by change in her hormonal message relay system.



1. Eptopic pregnancy or pregnancy (welll known risk of tubals)

1a.Hot flashes, flushes, night sweats and/or cold flashes, clammy feeling, chills

2. Bouts of rapid heart beat

3. Irritability

4. Mood swings, sudden tears

5. Trouble sleeping through the night (with or without night sweats)

6. Irregular periods; shorter, lighter periods; heavier periods, flooding; phantom periods, shorter cycles, longer cycles

7. Loss of libido (see note)

8. Dry vagina (see note)

8a.Itchy vagina-at time raw like, can radiated from whole area, with absence of yeast infections. (see note)

8b.Color change in vaginal area. (color gets darker - purple/black)

9. Crashing fatigue

10.Anxiety, feeling ill at ease

11.Feelings of dread, apprehension, doom (see note)

12.Difficulty concentrating, disorientation, mental confusion

13.Disturbing memory lapses

14.Incontinence, especially upon sneezing, laughing; urge incontinence (see note)

14a.Prolapse of uterus do to rapid decress in estrogen levels.

15.Itchy, crawly skin (see note)

16.Aching, sore joints, muscles and tendons (see note)

17.Increased tension in muscles

18.Breast tenderness

18a. Decress in breast mass

19.Headache change: increase or decrease

20.Gastrointestinal distress, indigestion, flatulence, gas pain, nausea

21.Sudden bouts of bloat

22.Depression (see note)

23.Exacerbation of existing conditions

24.Increase in allergies

25.Weight gain (see note)

26.Hair loss or thinning, head, pubic, or whole body; increase in facial hair

27.Dizziness, light-headedness, episodes of loss of balance

28.Changes in body odor

29.Electric "shock" or "stabbing" sensation under the skin.

30.Tingling in the extremities, (see note)

31.Gum problems, increased bleeding

32.Burning tongue, burning roof of mouth, bad taste in mouth, change in breath odor (see notes)

33.Osteoporosis (after several years)

34.Changes in fingernails: softer, crack or break easier


Symptom 1a (flashes) Hot flashes are due to the hypothalamic response to declining ovarian estrogen production. The declining estrogen state induces hypophysiotropic neurons in the arcuate nucleas of the hypothalamus to release gonadotropin-releasing hormone (GnRH) in a pulsatile fashion, which in turn stimulates release of luteinizing hormone (LH). Extremely high pulses of LH occur during the period of declining estrogen production. The LH has vasodilatory effects, which leads to flushing.

Symptom 7 (loss of libido) For some women the loss is so great that they actually find sex repulsive, in much the same way as they felt before puberty. What hormones give, loss of hormones can take away.

Symptom 8 (dry vagina) results in painful intercourse

Symptom 8a (Itchy and or raw vaninal area) A normal vaginal pH level is around 4.5. A vaginal pH of 6.0 to 7.5 -- in the absence of a vaginal infection (yeast infection)-- indicates low blood estrogen levels and signals that the woman is menopausal. "The vagina (and whole area) becomes more acidic."

Symptom 11 (doom thoughts) includes thoughts of death, picturing one's own death. Feelings of complete dispare.

Symptom 14 (incontinence) reflects a general loss of smooth muscle tone

Symptom 15 (itchy, crawly skin) feeling of ants crawling under the skin, not just dry itchy skin

Symptom 16 (aching sore joints) may include such problems as carpal tunnel syndrome

Symptom 22 (depression) different from other depression, the inability to cope is overwhelming. There is a feeling of loss of self. Hormone therapy ameliorates the depression dramatically.

Symptom 25 (weight gain) often around the waist and thighs, resulting in 'the disappearing waistline'

Symptom 29 (shock sensation) "the feeling of a rubber band snapping in the layer of tissue between skin and muscle. It may be a precursor to a hot flash"

Symptom 30 (tingling in extremities) can also be a symptom of B-12 deficiency, diabetes, alterations in the flexibility of blood vessels, or a depletion of potassium or calcium

Symptom 32 (Burning mouth syndrome)

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