I don't want to make things weird at work for the others, but I also feel like I don't want this special moment ruined! If it was my birthday party or something like that, it wouldn't bother me as much because I can try again next year. I won't get a redo for my son's baby shower and he is my first born! I prayed but never thought I would get to be a mom!
What would you do? Would you keep the peace and invite her even though you don't want her there? Or not invite her and make things weird at work for the other employees? Thanks so much for taking a moment to help me with this problem.
Honestly, I wouldn't invite her. If I got asked why, I would tell them that she has said some very disrespectful things to me and I would rather her not be there. Good luck!!
Quoting Troysbabygirl69:Honestly, I wouldn't invite her. If I got asked why, I would tell them that she has said some very disrespectful things to me and I would rather her not be there. Good luck!!
NO! They can't legally fire you or downgrade your position just because you didn't invite someone you work with to YOUR babyshower!! It's YOUR babyshower..not theirs :o)
Quoting misslady80013:
Thanks, will there be any professional consequences if I don't invite her? I am sorry if that's a stupid question, never had a management position before.
Quoting Troysbabygirl69:Honestly, I wouldn't invite her. If I got asked why, I would tell them that she has said some very disrespectful things to me and I would rather her not be there. Good luck!!
Quoting Troysbabygirl69:NO! They can't legally fire you or downgrade your position just because you didn't invite someone you work with to YOUR babyshower!! It's YOUR babyshower..not theirs :o)
Quoting misslady80013:
Thanks, will there be any professional consequences if I don't invite her? I am sorry if that's a stupid question, never had a management position before.
Quoting Troysbabygirl69:Honestly, I wouldn't invite her. If I got asked why, I would tell them that she has said some very disrespectful things to me and I would rather her not be there. Good luck!!
Well, you can't get like, written up or anything. But the woman you aren't inviting could starting being nastier to you, or your boss could try to pressure you into inviting her, and get upset that you aren't helping her 'keep the peace'. But you can't get in trouble at work specifically for not inviting someone to a social event.
If your boss tries to pressure you, you should just say "look, you don't want to say anything to her to make her be at least respectful to me, but I think it's fair that I don't want someone like that at my special event."
Quoting misslady80013:
Okay, so even though my boss is throwing it and every one else will be there, I won't get in trouble at work?
Quoting Troysbabygirl69:
NO! They can't legally fire you or downgrade your position just because you didn't invite someone you work with to YOUR babyshower!! It's YOUR babyshower..not theirs :o)
Quoting misslady80013:
Thanks, will there be any professional consequences if I don't invite her? I am sorry if that's a stupid question, never had a management position before.
Quoting Troysbabygirl69:
Honestly, I wouldn't invite her. If I got asked why, I would tell them that she has said some very disrespectful things to me and I would rather her not be there. Good luck!!
Marimaru
Mommy of Isabelle Rose, born 10/11/2009
I think that if you don't want her to be there for those reasons..she probably wouldnt' want to be there either. I'd guess even if she were invited that she wouldn't go. If you don't invite her and she were to ask you why..I'd simply say "well, I didn't think we were friends or on a friendly level."
100% what Marimaru said :o)
Quoting Marimaru:Well, you can't get like, written up or anything. But the woman you aren't inviting could starting being nastier to you, or your boss could try to pressure you into inviting her, and get upset that you aren't helping her 'keep the peace'. But you can't get in trouble at work specifically for not inviting someone to a social event.
If your boss tries to pressure you, you should just say "look, you don't want to say anything to her to make her be at least respectful to me, but I think it's fair that I don't want someone like that at my special event."
Quoting misslady80013:
Okay, so even though my boss is throwing it and every one else will be there, I won't get in trouble at work?
Quoting Troysbabygirl69:
NO! They can't legally fire you or downgrade your position just because you didn't invite someone you work with to YOUR babyshower!! It's YOUR babyshower..not theirs :o)
Quoting misslady80013:
Thanks, will there be any professional consequences if I don't invite her? I am sorry if that's a stupid question, never had a management position before.
Quoting Troysbabygirl69:
Honestly, I wouldn't invite her. If I got asked why, I would tell them that she has said some very disrespectful things to me and I would rather her not be there. Good luck!!
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