my ex wants me to induce labor 3 weeks early! EDIT- IM SO MAD! 2nd edit
ok so im due april 24th and my stbx husband is a marine. were getting divorced because he didnt want the baby so i moved back home and he stayed where he is stationed( which is half way across the country). he recently decided that he wants the baby after all which i think is great! im glad he decided to stick around for our baby. we are not getting back together but thats fine with me as long as hes still in the babys life..my son deserves to grow up with a father! well he recently found out he is deploying april 24th..the same day i am due! he doesnt know where he will be going because they will not tell him and he wont know until he gets there..which usually means its not gunna be somewhere pretty..and he will be gone for 1 year. well he called me today and asked me to enduce labor 3 weeks early so he could come down and meet his son before he is born and i said NO! i dont think its worth the risk..he thinks i am being mean and am doing this out of spite but im not..i just dont think its right..i am in no way trying to keep his son from him but he doesnt see it that way...what would you do? am i making the right choice? i think i am but he doesnt
SO I JUST TAKED TO MY SISTER AND SHE IS TAKING HIS SIDE..SHE SAYING THAT IM BEING SELFISH AND THAT I NEED TO REALIZE THAT ITS HIS KID TOO..EVEN AFTER I EXPLAINED ALL THE RISKS AND EVERYTHING ABOUT IT..UGHH I JUST FEEL LIKE IM GETTING ATTACKED AND ALL IM DOING IS TRYING TO DO WHATS BEST FOR MY SON AND NOW IM SITTING HERE CRYING BECAUSE I FEEL LIKE A SHITTY PERSON
2ND EDIT..TO EVERYONE SAYING THAT THEY DONT SEE WHY I WOULDNT DO IT A WEEK OR 2 EARLY..I DONT WANT TO BE INDUCED AT ALL! i want him to come when he is ready! i will only be induced if it is medically nessisary or if he is more than a week overdue
I know I would never be able to live with myself is god forbid something happened healthwise if the baby came early. I also don't know how I'd face the father never being able to meet the baby if god forbid something happened to him.
That's just tough all around. I'd think about inducing labor maybe a week early & see what he thinks of that...
Chances are your doctor wouldn't agree to induce 3 weeks early anyway ! Your due date might be off a tad & that could mean you'd have a premature baby !
they wont let him come down unless its 3 weeks early..and i just dont feel comfortable with enducing early at all
Quoting vwd_johnson:
I completely agree that it's not safe to just induce the baby 3 weeks early. Howeverrrrr, I can only see how horrible it would be for him to never meet his baby until possibly over a year old. Is it possible you would consider inducing the baby a week early so the hasn't was fullterm & more likely to have zero health risks ?
I know I would never be able to live with myself is god forbid something happened healthwise if the baby came early. I also don't know how I'd face the father never being able to meet the baby if god forbid something happened to him.
That's just tough all around. I'd think about inducing labor maybe a week early & see what he thinks of that...
Chances are your doctor wouldn't agree to induce 3 weeks early anyway ! Your due date might be off a tad & that could mean you'd have a premature baby !
Thats tough. I think 3 weeks is too soon. I have been induced 1 week early with 2 of my kids so if I was in this situation I would feel comfortable doing it again.
I think he's insane for asking! And I'm glad you told him no...you're definately making the right choice. Putting your son ahead of others is what a good mom does
Your ex needs to think about that...he's willing to risk his son's health just to accomodate himself
You should let him know that an EDD can be wrong...up to two weeks..so if you induced 3wks before that you could really be having a 35wk baby which is preemie...
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- sarahramirez
on Feb. 14, 2012 at 12:28 AM