my ex wants me to induce labor 3 weeks early! EDIT- IM SO MAD! 2nd edit

ummm lots of ppl including myself deliver while the dad is deployed. you can do it!

plus as you know- his deployment date varies.... especially being so far out. and his command could push it back for him. just don't induce! good luck!!

If baby is ready before he is deployed, then he will come on his own.

You are absolutely right, you should only induce when absolutely medically neccessary! Tell daddy that he needs to start putting his CHILD first. This puts baby at serious risk, and if he really wants to be a parent then the baby's needs must ALWAYS come first from here on out. 

 Even if it is his kid too it is still your body and your right. Beside no doctor in there right mind would induce you before 39wks unless there is a medical reason. Just b/c you ex is being deployed is not a good enough reason for them to induce you so you won't even have to worry about it! Even if your dr is dumb enough to say yes tell them he said no. Go with your gut!!

Your not a shitty person for keeping your unborn childs best interest as your priority.
How shitty would THEY feel if he ended up in the NICU from being born too early.
Your body, your choice! Don't let them make you feel bad!!

I understand his wanting to meet his son before he leaves...but that's where it ends. We are a military family as well and unfortunately that's part of the life. My SIL is also married to military. They got married and she got pregnant just before he left for a year. She had the baby and he didn't get to meet his daughter until she was 3 mos old. It's tough but it happens. My husband has missed numerous milestones in out sons' lives. He's missed first words, first steps, learning to crawl, etc. But what I told my DH, is that while that sucks to miss all those firsts, we have video of it and they are too little to know you are gone. Most dads don't find them that fun that little anyhow, it's after they are one, when they are more fun for Daddies. My oldest was born at 37w. He was 5lbs11oz. He was so tiny and was in preemie clothes forever! He got jaundice pretty badly and they had to do that awful Billie Rubens (sp!?) test to him more times than I care to remember. His little heels were so purple and bruised it broke my heart. I was so glad that DS2 (born over a week late) & 3 (born the day before his due date) were full term and never had any of those issues that little. You're doing what's right and the fact that stbx and your own sister can't see that is unfortunate FOR THEM, not you sweetie!

Heck no! He is the selfish one! I understand wanting to meet your son, but not that expense of his health or his life. A baby even induced on the due date, still has a higher chance of needing help, because due dates are often wrong, and you end up with what they call a "late preemie", meaning they were born between (I believe) 37 and 39 weeks. I cannot imagine how bad it would be for your child to be born "three weeks early" only to find out the gestational age was more like five to six weeks early... You are doing the right thing, Momma! You stick to your guns! All else fails, (I REALLY don't condone lying, but would to save my child) tell him the doctor refuses. I am certain the doctor would, anyway... 

i'd tell him the due date is just an estimate, your dates could be off and end up with a premature baby that has complications. I'd never induce early...I've had early babies and its horrible

I don't think you're being selfish. I'd MAYBE consider a week early in this situation, IF things were "favorable" but no way I'd go for it if not. 

Yes. Two weeks makes a world of difference. And he is asking for three weeks early. Here is an excellent article that discusses the issue of inducing before 39 weeks. OP, I hope this article helps. Maybe, your stbx and your sister will be more understanding if they have written information in front of them. 

http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704615504576172291331227676.html

Quoting JustDG:

There was a lady that induced her labor early because her husband was given less than a week to live, and she wanted him to see his child before he died...sad story.  Id talk to your doctor about the decision, they know if the baby is healthy enough to be delivered early...and honestly, 2 weeks isnt gonna hurt your baby.

Hmm, I wouldn't do it.  Not worth the risk. :(