My husband's stepbrother's wife(my sil) is 2 months ahead of me pregancy wise. Shes due June 17th and IM due August 17th. This is her first and my second one. She recently found out she is having a girl which is good b/c I have all boys.
The day she found out she called me and was like" I hope u are sitting down. Its a girl". Fine great, IM happy for her and everything but then the rest of the family(FIl,Mil,BIL's,etc) all called me and was like"Are you suicidal? R u going to survive?" etc etc. YEs I want a girl after 3 boys(2 stepsons and my son) but Im still pregnant. Theres a chance it could be a girl.
That made me upset but I let it go.
Heres what hurts my feelings. I feel like IM getting slighted by my MIL. I get that its her first blood grandchild but she still has another daughter in law thats pregnant too. She has bought my SIL/BIl tons of things inclduing maternity clothes,a pack and play and etc. I havent gotten one thing or even asked if I needed anything. Hell they havent even called me to ask me how IM doing. I dont need them to buy me anything but a gesture would be nice. Its not like Im having baby after baby. THis one will be 6 yrs younger than my ds.
They werent happy that I was pregnant bc they thought we "had plenty already". WE have the 3 boys and my neice lives with us too. But we dont ask them for ANYTHING. My kids have only even spent the night with them once. Jacob(my youngest ds) has yet to be invited for a weekend with them. But for some reason my SIL/Bil moved in with them rent free and dont pay any bills but they are buying them stuff everyday. SIL calls me all the time and tells me what MIL bought her 2day.
AM I being overly sensitive or hormonal? I knew that once my SIL got pregnant that my kids would become nonexisent and that seems to be the case. Should I say something or just keep my distance?
lol thanks ladies for the laughs. I needed that. I could care less about the material things. I just want them to ACKNOWLEDGe my baby and me.
Hormones blow but I would be hurt too =( But there's nothing you can do. Be happy for you and your DH <3 No one else matters... (Except me because I have almost the same due date as you and that makes us awesome :)
NO you're not!
They're biased towards "their" grandchild and its bullcrap
I'm sorry its happeneing to you....but just know that MIL across the land are crap so you're not the only one
My MIL didn't even acknowledge that I was pregnant until hmmmm his birth...she had to be forced to go to the baby shower by her husband (dh's stepdad)
I would be frustrated too. It sucks to have people play favorites. Hang in there.
Some families just have the 'golden child' mentality. My ex husbands family was JUST like that when I had my daughter. My xhusbands sister was jealous and their folks paid 50 grand for her to be artificially enseminated. After paying 5o grand on their new house. Well ex SIL had a daughter too and now they act like my DD doesnt exist. Just ignore them and enjoy your pregnancy, wonderful man/kids and new baby! (:
i wouldn't say anything..focus on your little family and stop picking up the phone for shopping updates! your mil may show you more attention when you're further along or she may not-either way Yay you have a baby on the way!
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on Feb. 14, 2012 at 10:34 PM