Ho-hum still about the gender scan we had Friday. I cried on Friday and Saturday. DH feels like she was wrong. He wants to wait til our big anatomy scan late next month. I dint want to get my hopes up and be all sad again. I'm trying to just accept it's another boy. But it's hard. I was so sure this was a girl. I'll still love baby. We have no name picked at all, and I don't even know where to start for it. He said to wait. He said he'll keep the faith for us both for now. We've kinda started talking about whether we'd have a 5th or not. 5 is my max. He said he'd at least wait on getting cut and he said the other factor would be if we bought our house next year. I think he's open to it, but at the same time I don't want him to think of having a 5th later on cause I'm sad I never got to experience being mom to a daughter. The excitedness hasn't fully come back yet for this baby. That worries me. I just kinda feel like a lost a child. Does that make sense?
Quoting tansyflower:i have never really understood why people get so attached to having a child of a certain gender.....not to down play how you feel because thats your right to feel whatever you want.
but i guess after having fertility issues and losing our first baby it made me realize that any child is such a gift and it truly does not matter if they are a boy or girl or even if they are "healthy"....all children are a blessing in my eyes.
Quoting gypsy_rose:Why not adopt a little girl so your sure to have a daughter? If you have 4 boys the chances of a girl are slim.
Hold onto those momentos. Don't forget there will be daughters in law and grandbabies down the road!
My MIL was the same way. She had 4 boys trying to get a girl, and on the last delivery she had to have an emergency hysterectomy. But now she has 2 daughter in laws and 1 grandson, 1 granddaughter on the way, and a 3rd "mystery" child in the works! Yes, it might suck to wait, but if you look long term, things do look brighter
Quoting aireeno:
I think that us the biggest reason I have guilt over this. I wanted another child, just like my previous DS. I wanted DS1 and 2 to be boys. Then I hoped for a daughter. So we could experience both. I still want and love this child, but thinking I may never get to be mom to a daughter to pass down things my mother passed to me, makes me sad. My mom has a dress from me as a newborn that she saved for my daughter, I had hoped to pass down. I feel blessed and thank Him daily for this child and mean it and ask Him for help and guidance to overcome my disappointment. I feel like a terrible person for even being sad for an instant and shedding a tear.
Quoting tansyflower:i have never really understood why people get so attached to having a child of a certain gender.....not to down play how you feel because thats your right to feel whatever you want.
but i guess after having fertility issues and losing our first baby it made me realize that any child is such a gift and it truly does not matter if they are a boy or girl or even if they are "healthy"....all children are a blessing in my eyes.
Just because his dad had girls does not mean he will. My husbands friend (one of his two best friends) had a girl. The first female in 8 generations. I wish you luck if you so decide to get pregnant again. I personaly am adopting my own daughter. I have had two biological sons, 1 step daughter (I am raising but have not raised since infancy) and two step sons. We need to even the odds in this house LOL.
Quoting aireeno:
We can't, and that's on me. We had thought we might have had one by now, his dad has 8 kids. 2 boys, then 4 girls, then 2 boys.
Quoting gypsy_rose:Why not adopt a little girl so your sure to have a daughter? If you have 4 boys the chances of a girl are slim.
I don't trust early scans at all...I was pregnant with #3 and was told I was having a girl...after 2 boys I was over the top excited and so was DH..I went back a few weeks later because I was high risk and at that scan was told I was having another Boy...he will be 3 in May and I love him to pieces...I was beyond upset when I heard DS #3 I was so ready for a girl but God had other plans...They may be wrong and believe it or not it happens alllll the time..My cousin was on her 5th pregnancy and they told her she was having her 5th girl only to find out the day of delievery that her 5th girl was in fact a beautiful baby boy :) So don't loose hope:) Good Luck and Keep us updated!!
How early did you start to swell
- aireeno
on Feb. 21, 2012 at 8:32 AM