My baby daddy and i aren't together, and after him being absent for all 9 months, never [and still hasn't] spent one penny on her, or prepping for her. I paid for my crib, stroller, baby things, etc with no help. He never once even asked how our daughter was doing, and instead spent his time at the bar and wherever else. Regardless, I've decided that I want him at the birth because although I don't think he deserves it, I feel that my daughter deserves to have her dad there. However, Now he's demanding that she take his last name, which ultimately I do NOT want this to happen, I want her to have my last name. Also, he's demanding that a few of his friends come to see my baby after I have her while we're still in the hospital, but I don't want the to come because they're so disrespectful and fake to me.
What I'm asking is, Do I have say as to what my daughter's last name is, regardless of the dad's feelings?
Also, If the dad wants to have specific visitors that I don't approve of, can I tell them I don't want them to see my daughter?