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So basically, at 36 weeks, my doctors are giving up on me because I have an eating disorder...

Posted by on Feb. 28, 2012 at 8:10 AM
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I am 36 weeks pregnant with an eating disorder. It is classified as Eating Disorder Not Otherwise Specified because I have periods of binging and purging and then I have periods of restricting. I have been struggling with this for years...I was 4 weeks pregnant when I made my first appointment divulging all the shameful, intimate and extremely personal details of my disorder with the doctors. I was extremely honest with my doctors upfront. I even am seeing a therapist and spoke to a nutritionist. As I am nearing the end of my pregnancy, I am having a lot of issues with my disorder. I have been calling and trying to take all the right steps, trying to get help and finally they answer my phone call only to tell me that they are transferring me to a high risk unit ob at the university here in South Carolina. I ask, "With only 4 weeks left"? and they said they could no longer help me. How would you take this? Should I be grateful or pissed? I kind of feel like they are washing their hands of me. Giving up on me and the baby. This is my 3rd child and no doctor has EVER given up on me! I basically feel like they are sending me elsewhere because they are not knowledgable enough to deal with an eating disordered patient. What do you think?

Posted by on Feb. 28, 2012 at 8:10 AM
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amnesialand69
by Member on Feb. 28, 2012 at 8:19 AM
I would ve glad that they are transfering you t a place that might be able to help you more. Hugs and sorry you have to go through this.
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Caitlin_mommyx3
by Bronze Member on Feb. 28, 2012 at 8:20 AM
I think it could be a liability if anything happened to your baby because of your disorder. I don't blame them for wanting you to see high risk OBs.
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LilSarahgirl
by on Feb. 28, 2012 at 8:23 AM
They are not giving up on you. They are trying to get you the help you need. Obviously after 36 weeks, what they were doing is not working.
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robbinsroost
by on Feb. 28, 2012 at 8:24 AM
I would be happy for the transfer, even with so little time left. Sounds like your OB was not able to help and maybe he thinks you can get better help with the high risk OB. Hope you can get the help you need and have been asking for with the new Dr.
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misslady80013
by on Feb. 28, 2012 at 8:24 AM
I agree!

This can't be easy for you and hope it gets better soon. Just look at the bright side, at least they didn't leave you hanging. Hopefully the next one you see can better understand and help you.


Quoting amnesialand69:

I would ve glad that they are transfering you t a place that might be able to help you more. Hugs and sorry you have to go through this.

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teri4lance
by Bronze Member on Feb. 28, 2012 at 8:27 AM
I would be glad to not be burned cared for by people unable or unwilling to take on my problems.
Aren't you receiving psychiatric care too? If not, and you are uncontrolled enough to scare off your ob, you might take that as an indication that you should.
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Romansmami0412
by on Feb. 28, 2012 at 8:31 AM

 I have a therapist that I see once a week and spoke to a nutristionist at the beginning of my pregnancy...

-mrs.mamma-
by Carlie on Feb. 28, 2012 at 8:34 AM
Hugs!
They just want you to have better care. I would rather them transfer you than keep you under their care knowing they can't help you any further.
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Larsbug
by Laura on Feb. 28, 2012 at 8:40 AM
I think you are over reacting and should count your blessings that your baby will get the care it needs. I don't mean this nasty but it will probably come out that way anyway... You made it a high risk pregnancy, so now you just need to follow along and go with what they think is best for baby right now.

JustDG
by Member on Feb. 28, 2012 at 9:13 AM

I would take it as a blessing that they are transferring you...at least you will have a month (hopefully) to get to know a new team of medical personelle and they know how to deal with your disorder...the doctors here havent even asked me for a medical history, so I just dont offer up any issues I have had...

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