Seriously, with the birth of my daughter 5 years ago, she STILL gives me a hard time because i didnt want her there during the birth, or even after, i called her the next morning after i had my mommy - daddy bonding time. Then when she did come over, she was so rude, and i caught her spilling out my hard earned breastmilk for formula while i was sleeping! SO mad. Why did she even bring formula with her? Psycho.
With this baby i told her i still dont want ANYONE there, thats my personal time, and i probably wont even call her until i get home from the hospital the next day! I dont see the problem with that, my bf's mom is going to be visiting here from hawaii and i told her the same thing, i dont want anyone in the room, and after the birth we want a few hours of nap and bonding time. She was fine with that, My mom? Ohh no. Her EXACT words were "Umm no. that doesnt happen. Thats FAMILY time. Everyone gets to be in there." Omg lady. Shes lucky i hung up because i wanted to go through the phone.
Its called bonding time!! Why does she have to constantly upset me?? She KNOWS what i want. And has for 5 years! Does anyone else have birthing time crazy people??
Your mom sounds like my MIL.
If you dont want her there...then thats that. She shouldn't be there. I would make a sign for the door that says something like... " New baby bonding time...Please call later." Or something. I also agree with informing the staff that you do not want visitors or just an approved list after a certain time. They will enforce this.
When my nephew was in the hospital...his deadbeat dad tried to come and after being told no repeatedly. We called the front desk and his name was put on the list of do not allow. He was escorted off the property.
My mom & dad will come up & be with DD while I have the new baby. They are welcome after the birth...but only them and only because they back us up on all of our decisions about parenting and birth. The respect our wishes... But that is what we want. Its your day and you should get what you and daddy want. Dont let them bring you down.
OMG... I would be so annoyed. I plan on doing the same thing. The last thing I want is a room full of visitors right after I've given birth... they can wait.
When I gave birth to my son I was so overwhelmed because of all the people in the room... I hadn't even had a chance to rest. Ugh. I love them, but they can wait.
Quoting mamaelle88:Why can't you mom come visit you at the hospital? I mean I understand not being at the birth, that is time for bonding with you and your new baby, but why not hours afterwards?
When I had my daughter (my husband died, so I had no one) but I had my mom, and my best friend, who were both present during my labor and so glad. It was so wonderful to see my moms face, to watch me give birth, considering my mom is a breast cancer survivor, but didn't even know if she would be around to see me grow up, let alone have a child, and witness it.
Personally, your being completely selfish for not wanting her even AFTER the birth. So does that mean NO vistors period? I couldn't do that, especially towards anyone in the family...
How in the world is she being selfish?? Thats HER baby HER birth experience HER right to decide how it all goes down.
Its bonkers for you to tell her shes completely selfish, obviously she doesnt have the best relationship with her mother, and hell i think shes being nice by even telling her mom when she gets home... I wouldnt but im SELFISH.
Quoting mamaelle88:Why can't you mom come visit you at the hospital? I mean I understand not being at the birth, that is time for bonding with you and your new baby, but why not hours afterwards?
When I had my daughter (my husband died, so I had no one) but I had my mom, and my best friend, who were both present during my labor and so glad. It was so wonderful to see my moms face, to watch me give birth, considering my mom is a breast cancer survivor, but didn't even know if she would be around to see me grow up, let alone have a child, and witness it.
Personally, your being completely selfish for not wanting her even AFTER the birth. So does that mean NO vistors period? I couldn't do that, especially towards anyone in the family...
Ugh I am totally with you! I prefer less people in the delivery room I could never have a full room of people... or even people waiting on me after I had the baby. I want to deliver and rest and hang out and get to meet my baby and for DH to get to meet the baby too. My MIL had a problem with this and tried makng her way in anyway and I had a nurse ask her to leave.. my 2nd she seemed to get it a little better so I'm hoping because she knows this is our last she won't be trying to make her way in again for one last go .. its not gonna happen!
Op, tell the nurses expressly she is not allowed there. If she tries to pick a fight, we call security and they escort family out, sometimes not so nicely if they are violent. We've had to call the cops for family going insane.
Quoting mamaelle88:Why can't you mom come visit you at the hospital? I mean I understand not being at the birth, that is time for bonding with you and your new baby, but why not hours afterwards?
When I had my daughter (my husband died, so I had no one) but I had my mom, and my best friend, who were both present during my labor and so glad. It was so wonderful to see my moms face, to watch me give birth, considering my mom is a breast cancer survivor, but didn't even know if she would be around to see me grow up, let alone have a child, and witness it.
Personally, your being completely selfish for not wanting her even AFTER the birth. So does that mean NO vistors period? I couldn't do that, especially towards anyone in the family...
are you my sister??? lol my mom is nuts too no matter what i say to her she does the opposite so she hardly sees my kid and i wish i wouldnt have told her im pregnant again. i just ignor my mom if she wants to be rude let her but do stuff your way you need to be happy first
Your the one giving birth, its your choice! I cant beleive your mother would try and sneak formula instead of breastmilk while you were sleeping, that's pyscho! Who does that?! Seriously!
Do what you want. When we had Dd I said no one in the room while I'm pushing and didnt let anyone visit until after she was born. right after she came out MIL tried to burst into the room but the doctors kept her from coming in. Seriously, we're pretty private when it comes to that sort of thing and I didnt want anyone seeing any of that.
Stick to your guns and tell your mother to piss off.
Quoting mamaelle88:Why can't you mom come visit you at the hospital? I mean I understand not being at the birth, that is time for bonding with you and your new baby, but why not hours afterwards?
When I had my daughter (my husband died, so I had no one) but I had my mom, and my best friend, who were both present during my labor and so glad. It was so wonderful to see my moms face, to watch me give birth, considering my mom is a breast cancer survivor, but didn't even know if she would be around to see me grow up, let alone have a child, and witness it.
Personally, your being completely selfish for not wanting her even AFTER the birth. So does that mean NO vistors period? I couldn't do that, especially towards anyone in the family...
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- hello_kitty25
on Apr. 27, 2012 at 1:53 AM