So I am about 22 weeks pregnant and I cary the CF gene, my mom's cousin died from the condition at an early age on a 10 minute car drive. They spotted a bright spot in dd bowels on my last ultra sound and that is common in children with CF but is not a diagnosis. Well SO is getting his genes run to be safe but my mom wants me to do an anmnio and find out "before it's too late" bc I don't know/understand how horrible it was to watch some one suffer with CF and there is no cure, bc I will spend all my money and time on a child who won't live as long or as well as she should and my two other daughters will resent me. I get while people make these choices and my mom actually had an abortion after she had my sister and I bc she thought my dad was dying (he had Hep B really badly and was told that he would not survive.) I understand that it was the right choice for her and maybe it's the right choice for a lot of other people but not for me. It's breaking my heard dd might be fine but I feel really bad about this. Mom says if it's too late to abort her I should give her up to spare the other girls (not that she thinks anyone would want her.) I can't, I just can't, okay? She's so offended and worried I can't even stand it. I don't even want to do an amnio bc it wouldn't change anything but it might her her. She has a name for the love of God! Sorry if I got a little ranty.
*Thank all of you who have shared your personal stories, I can't believe how quickly people who have known others with CF have been to share. No matter what I just want my children to have fulfilling lives. To people who think my mom is cruel, she's a very hard woman and her back story is kind of crazy. I've actually heard my grandmother tell her she was a mistake and she never wanted her. She was actually resented by her brothers and she is physically and mentally "normal." I know that everyone has a back story but I try to be forgiving.