How do you feel about having babies very close together?
Here's a few different views on the subject- what are yours??
- babyzone.com: Mavis Schorn, a certified nurse-midwife at West End Women's Health Center and an assistant professor at Vanderbilt School of Nursing, says that generally, studies have shown 18 to 23 months apart is ideal spacing. "Spacing seems to adversely affect pregnancy more significantly if it is less than six months or greater than five years," says Schorn. "The very closely spaced pregnancy (less than one year) has an increased risk of low birth weight and/or preterm birth."
- azcentral.com: "There's no formula and no one way for all families," says Debbie Glasser, director of family support at the Mailman Segal Institute at Nova Southeastern University. "The bottom line, regardless of months or years between siblings, is that parents embrace each child as a unique individual and spend quality time with each of them. The years go by too quickly, whether it's 15 months or five years between your kids."
I think it is best to wait at least a year. After that, what works best for each family is most important. For me, 3 years sounded like a good number. My sister and I were 4 years apart. That was too far because my Mom gave me 100% of her attention the whole time. Then my sister came along and it was hard for her to bond with my sister.
But I wonder if it would have been easier to have my 2 closer together and I sometimes think it would be good to wait until my baby is 4 before having another baby so I can avoid the whole terrible two's and such while juggling pregnancy and a baby.
My oldest 2 are 20 months apart.
2 & 3 are 3.5yrs apart
3 & 4 are 6.5yrs apart
Personally I prefer my oldest 2's age gap and I would've loved had they all been about that close in age.
28 monthes between my first 2, 23 monthes between #2 and 3 (bother were boys). 3 1/2 yrs or so between #3 and my last. I think ours were spaced perfectly for our familiy. I don't think I would have done well any closer with any of them, but I didn't want them spaced too far apart because I hope they will grow up to be close, unlike me and my sibs or my hub and his brother (8 yrs for him, 8, 13 and 18 for me and my sisters). The only think I wish was different was that with my daughters (#1 and 4), there is 8 yrs almost between them. I sort of wish I had had my 2 girls, then my 2 boys, or the reverse. But then I wouldn't have the kids that I have now and I honesly wouldn't change them for a thing!
How did you keep your pregnancy a secret?
Names?
- gacgbaker
on May. 16, 2012 at 4:09 AM