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My sister said my birth plan is worthless....(any input is great!)

Posted by on Jun. 8, 2012 at 2:06 PM
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(Yes, I know it is a bit long, I'm sorry. If you will, please read though.)

I asked yesterday about how to make a birth plan (i'm only 12 weeks but I want to know that anyone of my doctors are listening...they haven't been so far)

My sister (the one mentioned in the plan) said that it is worthless to make one and that mine is stupid and uncalled for. I was wondering if this is true? are my "demands" unreasonable or outlandish?

yes, she did hurt my feelings a bit by saying this. I still need to have the items listed approved or modified by both my doctor and the hospital but the is the rough draft. please, any input at all is great! yes, this is our first. 



Birth plan:
Labor partners: Ryan (husband) & Andrea (sister)

*if for any reason my husband cannot perform his responsibilities during or after the birth, my sister will stand in.

Labor and delivery:
1) upon arrival i do not want Pitocin to be administered. If my water has not yet broken on its own, i would like for it to happen naturally.
2) i would like to remain in my own clothing as long as possible before having to wear the hospital gown.
3) i do not want to be induced. Things may change later own but for now this is not an option for me.
4) i do not want pain meds offered to me. If needed, i will ask for options but i do not want to feel forced into it. An epidural is the last resort.
5) i do not want a c-section. I will labor for as long as i can naturally and a c-section will only be discussed if medically necessary and i must consent to it as well as my husband. (If a c-section is preformed, my wish is to keep as many of the after birth instructions as possible.)
6) i do not want an IV unless necessary. I am ok with a heplock.
7) during labor i would like to be able to eat or drink as i wish.
8) during labor i refuse to be "tied down". I want to be able to move and walk as i wish, this includes a shower or warm water bath.
9) during labor only close family is allowed in my room. During active labor only my husband and sister are allowed.
10) i would like to be able to utilize different birth positions.
11) i do not wish to use a belt monitor or internal monitor. I do not mind periodic Doppler monitoring.
12) aside from the initial exam, no internal vaginal exams until i ask.
13) i do not wish to have an episiotomy if avoidable.
14) the vacuum will not be used on my child.
15) i would like for my husband, Ryan, to "catch" the baby if at all possible.
16) no medications at all will be given to me unless i request them of i consent to them with a full explanation.

After the birth:
1) no Pitocin will be administered immediately after to expel the placenta. If there is a problem, other options will be discussed.
2) the cord will not be cut until after the placenta has been delivered and/or it has stopped pulsing and turned white. My husband will be the one to cut the cord.
3) direct skin-to-skin contact and nursing immediately after birth. This is a must. APGAR scores can be taken during nursing. Weight and such can be taken later.
4) baby does not go anywhere without je or daddy for any reason. Baby will be in my room and will not be in the nursery unless medically necessary. Baby
will not have any shots or test without our consent beforehand.
5) if baby is a boy he may be circumcised (husband and i are still discussing this actually so this one may change before than)
6) no bottle, paci's or sugar water. Baby is exclusively breast fed
7) day one of baby's life is mommy and daddy bonding time. We will update family but we do not wish to take visitors until day two. (this may change for CLOSE family)

8) I will be the one to give baby his/her first bath. This will be after nursing and bonding have taken place.

 

*I know that anything can change at any time and if an emergency should arise, most of these wishes will not be possible but these are my wishes for the birth experience I have planned and I ask that you be respectful of them and me during this time. Thank you.

by on Jun. 8, 2012 at 2:06 PM
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MomofNikki2010
by on Jun. 8, 2012 at 2:08 PM
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Sadly many hospitals do not follow birth plans as part of their policy and procedure. It is still good to know what you want and have your doctor know, but ultimately, policy and procedure and doctor's orders both trump your wishes.
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JJSMOMMYxox
by on Jun. 8, 2012 at 2:09 PM
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Sounds almost exactly like mine.

MomofNikki2010
by on Jun. 8, 2012 at 2:10 PM
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And reading through these, a hospital will not/cannot follow many of them. They have to follow regulations put out by CMS and other accrediting bodies and a lot of this is in direct violation on some of these regulations.
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LTryon
by Member on Jun. 8, 2012 at 2:16 PM
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I had a pretty detailed birth plan, but when it came down to it, the only things that really stuck was not being constantly monitored, being able to eat and drink, no drugs, and being able to labor in any position I wanted.... That's because when the time came, I didn't even know I was in labor, and ended up laboring at home. Dd just narrowly missed being born in SO's car.lol 9 minutes after walking into the hospital, dd was in a nurses arms.lol
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arigdon4
by on Jun. 8, 2012 at 2:17 PM

did they honer any of your wishes?

Quoting JJSMOMMYxox:

Sounds almost exactly like mine.


arigdon4
by on Jun. 8, 2012 at 2:18 PM

see, I would LOVE that kind of labor. Hell, I want to have a home birth but eh closest midwife is 75 miles away and not covered by our insurance.

Quoting LTryon:

I had a pretty detailed birth plan, but when it came down to it, the only things that really stuck was not being constantly monitored, being able to eat and drink, no drugs, and being able to labor in any position I wanted.... That's because when the time came, I didn't even know I was in labor, and ended up laboring at home. Dd just narrowly missed being born in SO's car.lol 9 minutes after walking into the hospital, dd was in a nurses arms.lol


arigdon4
by on Jun. 8, 2012 at 2:19 PM
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Like what or pretty much all of it? I call the head nurse of L&D and she's the one that told me to make the birth plan.

Quoting MomofNikki2010:

And reading through these, a hospital will not/cannot follow many of them. They have to follow regulations put out by CMS and other accrediting bodies and a lot of this is in direct violation on some of these regulations.


DamiensMommy1
by on Jun. 8, 2012 at 2:20 PM
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Talk to your Dr and a l&d nurse at your local hospital. There are gonna be some things they can't do but it doesn't sound more extreme than some birth plans I've seen
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LilGreenMonkey
by on Jun. 8, 2012 at 2:21 PM

Have you considered using a midwife instead of an OB?  You may have a better chance of being able to follow your birth plan that way.  Are you set on having the baby in a hospital setting?

jridgill
by on Jun. 8, 2012 at 2:22 PM
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Things happen so fast that most doctors and nurses don't have time to think about every detail you asked for. I don't think they ignore it on purpose. My advice is to go to a birthing center and have a midwife or do a home birth.

Good luck
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