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My sister said my birth plan is worthless....(any input is great!)

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(Yes, I know it is a bit long, I'm sorry. If you will, please read though.)

I asked yesterday about how to make a birth plan (i'm only 12 weeks but I want to know that anyone of my doctors are listening...they haven't been so far)

My sister (the one mentioned in the plan) said that it is worthless to make one and that mine is stupid and uncalled for. I was wondering if this is true? are my "demands" unreasonable or outlandish?

yes, she did hurt my feelings a bit by saying this. I still need to have the items listed approved or modified by both my doctor and the hospital but the is the rough draft. please, any input at all is great! yes, this is our first. 



Birth plan:
Labor partners: Ryan (husband) & Andrea (sister)

*if for any reason my husband cannot perform his responsibilities during or after the birth, my sister will stand in.

Labor and delivery:
1) upon arrival i do not want Pitocin to be administered. If my water has not yet broken on its own, i would like for it to happen naturally.
2) i would like to remain in my own clothing as long as possible before having to wear the hospital gown.
3) i do not want to be induced. Things may change later own but for now this is not an option for me.
4) i do not want pain meds offered to me. If needed, i will ask for options but i do not want to feel forced into it. An epidural is the last resort.
5) i do not want a c-section. I will labor for as long as i can naturally and a c-section will only be discussed if medically necessary and i must consent to it as well as my husband. (If a c-section is preformed, my wish is to keep as many of the after birth instructions as possible.)
6) i do not want an IV unless necessary. I am ok with a heplock.
7) during labor i would like to be able to eat or drink as i wish.
8) during labor i refuse to be "tied down". I want to be able to move and walk as i wish, this includes a shower or warm water bath.
9) during labor only close family is allowed in my room. During active labor only my husband and sister are allowed.
10) i would like to be able to utilize different birth positions.
11) i do not wish to use a belt monitor or internal monitor. I do not mind periodic Doppler monitoring.
12) aside from the initial exam, no internal vaginal exams until i ask.
13) i do not wish to have an episiotomy if avoidable.
14) the vacuum will not be used on my child.
15) i would like for my husband, Ryan, to "catch" the baby if at all possible.
16) no medications at all will be given to me unless i request them of i consent to them with a full explanation.

After the birth:
1) no Pitocin will be administered immediately after to expel the placenta. If there is a problem, other options will be discussed.
2) the cord will not be cut until after the placenta has been delivered and/or it has stopped pulsing and turned white. My husband will be the one to cut the cord.
3) direct skin-to-skin contact and nursing immediately after birth. This is a must. APGAR scores can be taken during nursing. Weight and such can be taken later.
4) baby does not go anywhere without je or daddy for any reason. Baby will be in my room and will not be in the nursery unless medically necessary. Baby
will not have any shots or test without our consent beforehand.
5) if baby is a boy he may be circumcised (husband and i are still discussing this actually so this one may change before than)
6) no bottle, paci's or sugar water. Baby is exclusively breast fed
7) day one of baby's life is mommy and daddy bonding time. We will update family but we do not wish to take visitors until day two. (this may change for CLOSE family)

8) I will be the one to give baby his/her first bath. This will be after nursing and bonding have taken place.

 

*I know that anything can change at any time and if an emergency should arise, most of these wishes will not be possible but these are my wishes for the birth experience I have planned and I ask that you be respectful of them and me during this time. Thank you.

by on Jun. 8, 2012 at 2:06 PM
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MamaBurmie
by Bronze Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 12:13 AM
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She probably already had her baby this was from June of last year.
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LucyHarper
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 12:19 AM

Its fine to have one, just be open minded and be prepared for it to change if medically necessary and be prepared for something to not go the way you want. At my hospital, eating during labor simply was not allowed. No exceptions. Weight is taken right away and tests are done, the lungs have to be suctioned and the baby has to be looked over, so they had to take him for a minute after he was born. 

babynurse244
by Bronze Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 2:59 PM

I'm a labor and delivery nurse. None of what you have asked is unreasonable. The hospital may have you be monitored more than with a doppler if something looks suspicious, but where I work we have remote monitors and patients can walk the hallways or in the room if they want. We usually have patients requesting to be checked more than we want to because they want to know how they're doing and we have to limit the exams because of infection risks and it's not really something we want to do if it's not really necessary. Is there a reason your doctors aren't listening to you? Birth plans are more the norm now than the exception, and a lot of us ask the patients to give us a run down on what they want when they first get to the hospital, even if they don't have a birthplan.

nisha723
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 3:09 PM

I don't think it's stupid , I think it's a great idea, I'm writing me a birthing plan as well Im 20 weeks pregnant so I will be writing mines out at 30 weeks . Congrats to you and your husband on your bundle of joy.

NoraDun
by Platinum Member on Jan. 29, 2013 at 3:14 PM

I do find birth plans pointless but that is just my experience. From my experiences and my friends experiences Drs and nurses simply dont listen nor care. They have 100s of women come through the labor and delivery all wanting this or that and I think they just get tired of it. The only birth that was how I wanted it was the one at home, which is why we are having another birth plan!!

If you are gonna make one, I highly suggest making it short and sweet. Find the MAIN points, those things extremely important to you, and just have them on it. You MAY get your OB to read through it in the next few mns...MAYBE, but once your in labor, no nurse is gonna have nor give the time to read through it if its really long.

None of this is to discourage you, its just my exprience. If your OB or hospital is extra caring of patients maybe it wont be the same for you. My Obs and Hospital just weren't for me!

RunningMommaof2
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 3:18 PM

Most hospitals will disregard your birth plan, so it's better to just have a good idea or what you want and make sure you and your dh put your foot down if need be. As for your labor part of you birth plan... I'm telling you from personal experience... your best bet is to stay home as long as possible, and you will avoid the majority of those things that you don't want. A good rule of thumb is to head to the hospital when you can't speak through contractions anymore. To answer your question, its ok to have a birth plan... but it's more for you than the hospital staff. When you get there just don't let them do anything that you don't want done. 

arigdon4
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 4:39 PM
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I did...he's a month old aready.

I gave up in having a birth plan after 30-ish weeks and just went with the flow.

I'm not sure why this is back up here lol

Quoting MamaBurmie:

She probably already had her baby this was from June of last year.


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coreilly89
by on Jan. 29, 2013 at 4:42 PM
The only people who will honor a birth plan to their best is a midwife or doula. Hospitals do what they want and make you think it's a life threatening emergency.


Quoting arigdon4:

(Yes, I know it is a bit long, I'm sorry. If you will, please read though.)

I asked yesterday about how to make a birth plan (i'm only 12 weeks but I want to know that anyone of my doctors are listening...they haven't been so far)

My sister (the one mentioned in the plan) said that it is worthless to make one and that mine is stupid and uncalled for. I was wondering if this is true? are my "demands" unreasonable or outlandish?

yes, she did hurt my feelings a bit by saying this. I still need to have the items listed approved or modified by both my doctor and the hospital but the is the rough draft. please, any input at all is great! yes, this is our first. 



Birth plan:
Labor partners: Ryan (husband) & Andrea (sister)

*if for any reason my husband cannot perform his responsibilities during or after the birth, my sister will stand in.

Labor and delivery:
1) upon arrival i do not want Pitocin to be administered. If my water has not yet broken on its own, i would like for it to happen naturally.
2) i would like to remain in my own clothing as long as possible before having to wear the hospital gown.
3) i do not want to be induced. Things may change later own but for now this is not an option for me.
4) i do not want pain meds offered to me. If needed, i will ask for options but i do not want to feel forced into it. An epidural is the last resort.
5) i do not want a c-section. I will labor for as long as i can naturally and a c-section will only be discussed if medically necessary and i must consent to it as well as my husband. (If a c-section is preformed, my wish is to keep as many of the after birth instructions as possible.)
6) i do not want an IV unless necessary. I am ok with a heplock.
7) during labor i would like to be able to eat or drink as i wish.
8) during labor i refuse to be "tied down". I want to be able to move and walk as i wish, this includes a shower or warm water bath.
9) during labor only close family is allowed in my room. During active labor only my husband and sister are allowed.
10) i would like to be able to utilize different birth positions.
11) i do not wish to use a belt monitor or internal monitor. I do not mind periodic Doppler monitoring.
12) aside from the initial exam, no internal vaginal exams until i ask.
13) i do not wish to have an episiotomy if avoidable.
14) the vacuum will not be used on my child.
15) i would like for my husband, Ryan, to "catch" the baby if at all possible.
16) no medications at all will be given to me unless i request them of i consent to them with a full explanation.

After the birth:
1) no Pitocin will be administered immediately after to expel the placenta. If there is a problem, other options will be discussed.
2) the cord will not be cut until after the placenta has been delivered and/or it has stopped pulsing and turned white. My husband will be the one to cut the cord.
3) direct skin-to-skin contact and nursing immediately after birth. This is a must. APGAR scores can be taken during nursing. Weight and such can be taken later.
4) baby does not go anywhere without je or daddy for any reason. Baby will be in my room and will not be in the nursery unless medically necessary. Baby
will not have any shots or test without our consent beforehand.
5) if baby is a boy he may be circumcised (husband and i are still discussing this actually so this one may change before than)
6) no bottle, paci's or sugar water. Baby is exclusively breast fed
7) day one of baby's life is mommy and daddy bonding time. We will update family but we do not wish to take visitors until day two. (this may change for CLOSE family)

8) I will be the one to give baby his/her first bath. This will be after nursing and bonding have taken place.

 

*I know that anything can change at any time and if an emergency should arise, most of these wishes will not be possible but these are my wishes for the birth experience I have planned and I ask that you be respectful of them and me during this time. Thank you.


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